What scares off a guy?

I think a huge put off is smoking. I am also put off by women that stick their noses in the air and act in a manner of "I can have you all." Most important thing is to wash. Smiling always attracts the opposite sex and it goes for both men and women.

Girls that show no interest in him. That cold, icy attitude. Especially when he makes an effort to be nice to them, and show them he's interested in them!

Lets see.. stuck up girls is a nice one
unfriendly one that almost never smile haha they are scary
and the girls that are always with a bunch of guys

Smoking, being obnoxious, talking too loud, being drunk in public, dressing extra slutty.

When I go somewhere, (it could be anywhere) I might be looking to see if there is a girl who looks like we can get along (I see something about you I can relate too) I try to smile, or I'm ready to smile, and if we catch each other smiling, I'm going to say "hi" because it looks like we can have a conversation. If you're not smiling, it makes it more like, there's a reason for looking and not smiling, like -do you like how I dress? Do I look funny? Lol, It's like I got to make a joke about me or you or the general atmosphere at the point to see if there's a sense of humor, that's important. If you don't feel like laughuing that's alright, I might just ask what's up, see where it goes, if I got nothing, I might move on if you seem closed off or too reserved.

Now for me to do this, pick you out amongst other girls, first I going to feel comfortable talking to you, like you're carrying you're self like you're not in a rush - like you got five minutes to have a conversation and meet someone new. Like if you seem comfortable in you're own skin, then I'm going to want to talk to you because I feel like you may be having a good day, and I should be too, so lets make it a great one, if we can, if not then that's cool, we don't need to waste each others time. And if you don't seem like you're comfortable with who you are, then I'm going to think you don't wan't to flirt or shy, or you are maybe reserved because you have a boyfriend, like keeping to your self or something like that, you know. But if you're shy, I can usually get you to open up somehow.

But If I carry myself in this way, and I find that there is a lack of chemistry, and you don't have a major like catastrophe going on in your life that you'd like a second opinion on, then I'm going to think that we aren't going to get along to well, or you don't want to communicate.

And like I really don't care who you are, I'll talk to anybody, or try to. Like I was at work and a lady and her daughter needed a balloon blown up for a party (I work in a department store) and she needed a get well balloon, so she wasn't having the best of day, if she was worrying about a loved one who is sick. She was short in response in asking for help, kind of gloomy type of person. She really didn't want to open up so you know what I did, I blew up the balloon, and when I had to put the ribbon on and tie the knot, I acted like my finger was stuck, smiled at the lady and her daughter and said to her daughter (who looked like 4 or 5) "hey I need and extra hand, can you make 'bunny ears' when you tie your shoes because I could use someone's expert help on that-" and the little girl helped me make the knot on the ribbon and her mother then told me "You know the last person rushed me right along so I was not really wanting to get a balloon and flowers from this store, but it was convenient, thanks a lot for your help. " And the lady then changed form a frowning person, to a smiling person, but it was how I carried myself.

1. Sexual Harassment. Approach the wrong witch at the wrong time and BAM! The worst part is that unless you know the women well, a man can never tell until the snake has bitten. It is why I have not directly asked an American women out in almost 10 years.

2. Age. Because I am 38, I simply cannot be messing with anyone under 18 or SLAM! 20 years in prison. In reality, I should be only looking at women around mid 20's.

3. Wedding ring. 'nuf said.

4. Filthy habits. Smoking, drinking heavily and drug use is out. Period.

5. Body language. If she's in a bad mood or have no smile in her eyes, leave her alone. If she is being mean or rude, forget it.

6. Crowds. If she is with her friends or family, leave her alone. Made this mistake before, got ugly and violent with her dad. Thankfully, I'm a good wrestler.

7. Situation. At church, work, a funeral or other similar situations, really bad idea.

Of all these, I feel #1 is the biggest, most important reason fo them all. I liked this question, thanks for bringing this up. I hope this helps women understand us more.

1. Groups of girls. It makes a guy nervous to approach a group of girls to talk to one of them. If you are out with your girlfriend and you want a guy to talk to you, then you should at least make a lot of flirty eye contact and smile. Oh also hold an almost empty drink. It gives a guy an in. Haha He can offer to buy you a drink, gets you away from the group for a second so he can't talk without feeling like he's on the spot in front of your friends.

2. Avoiding eye contact. If you want a guy to talk to you make eye contact and hold it a little longer than feel comfortable. Oh and smile while doing it. Haha so he doesn't think he has something on his face.

3. Do not laugh at guys in the bar or club. If some fugly guy comes up to you and you laugh at him other guys might see it and want to avoid being that guy, so they won't try with you. Most guys are deathly afraid of being laughed at by girls. And it's def not fun if a group of girls laughs at you. Lol

Eye contact is the most important though!