Why can't girls be praised for this too?

because most women don't go around screwing a lot of guys.. in my opinion if you have more then one partner in ethier gender your a ho.. unless your not screwing 2 people like with one and then screws another.. that's wrong! another way your a ho is if you date a gy just to screw him , then leave him and do it again after you get bored.l. that's wrong too... etheir gender its wrong... both genders should be considerd a ho iff they sleep with more thn one person at a t time like I said a little bit ago but that's my opinion

Girls can have sex easily... All they have to do is walk up to a guy and say "Hey wanna f***" and there you go instant sex. Men actually have to work for it and if he can actually succeed he is congratulated, because women don't just have random sex often.

However men that are like that are really despicable in my book.

Also try to realize people. Look at a historical graph for sexual openness and a graph for historical increase of STDS and orphans. I think you'll find they are VERY related. THAT IS WHY PEOPLE (not just women) HAVING MULTIPLE PARTNERS IS WRONG. Condoms don't stop sh*t for viruses. The only virus's and bacteria they help against is warts and herpes. HIV goes right through as well as syphilis and lots of other favorites. You people are slowly crippling the human race. Until all permanent STDS can be cured keep it to 2 partners a year for gods sake. Learn from the hippees they didn't just die out. They died very painful horrible deaths from their free sex. Hey don't listen to me after all I won't be the one looking after you when you die a slow painful death from multiple viruses slowly eating you from the inside out. Maybe then it will become plain why it was wrong to do what you did.
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We call them man-sluts here...

Not all men who find a guy who does that to be "The Man".

The question is not "Why can't they?" , but
"Should girls be praised for this too?"


Learn about "The Sex degrees of separation."
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THERE is a famous idea - some call it an urban myth - known as the Six Degrees Of Separation.

It suggests everyone on the planet knows somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody who knows YOU! It sounds silly but is amazingly hard to disprove.

So what if the same concept works for people who don't just know you, but have SLEPT with you?

According to a recent study, the average Brit has indirectly slept with more than TWO MILLION people. The figures, from Lloyd's pharmacy, are based on the average man claiming to have had nine sexual partners and the average woman 6.3.

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Only one healthy possibility: USE CONDOMS ! No other choice.

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They would if they stop lying and pretending

It's totally fine with me

Because almost any woman can get many men to sleep with her. The same can't be said of most men. You can sleep with many partners if you want -- just learn to live and love the slut label, because that is what you are. And don't sweat it -- most men really like sluts -- especially ones they can have when they are down.

The question in my opinion should be "Why aren't guys considered man-whores for sleeping around". in the cases of both genders, it is very immoral and totally nonsensical.

You are so right.. I wrote a short story on this topic, from a woman's point of view. I am going to post it now in the "stories" section of this site, in case anyone is interested in reading it.

YES IS THE EASY PART

But I think guys should stop the name calling, when they are the ones who usually seduce the woman to begin with.. and they want her to do it.

Good Luck,
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Good question. Frankly. I believe because you have to understand. Notice how hard guys try to get some . It's a GOAL for them. So when he brags to his friends. It's like a boy bragging he got to play pacman in the arcade. They feel like they have accomplished something that not many get to. Understand this first. For a Female however. It's rather easy. Because they have what any man will want. It's EASY for them. When they become EASY to sleep with. Then that's when they are labeled EASy. Understand? E.g. If a rich guy buys a top of the line phone.. It's not such a big deal.. It's a good phone ..yeah. We know. But it's easy for you..who cares. You don't work hard for it. If youlose it.. Who cares just buy another. That's the females case. While the poor man cannot afford it..when if they do. THEN they get praised for it for doing it since it actually does become a great achievement. Everyone gets happy for him and congratulates him for it. When he loses it. Everyone grieves and feels sorry. Because it wasn't easy for him. Does thi help in the understanding?

your way off, guy can sleep around due to nothing will change and its all practice. When a female sleeps around she begins to lose that tightness down there and when the 5th or 6th guy comes along there is no more tread. Its actually quite gross. Every time you have sex you lose tightness for females. Now there's a surgery to feel like a virgin again but after 5 males its never the same as the first two guys.

On the surface it may seem like a double standard, but when you dig a little deeper it's plain as day why the perception exists:

It's hard work for a guy to have lots of sex. Women are the gatekeepers and ultimately the decision makers. If your average woman, or even below average in the looks dept, wanted to she can have as many partners as she likes without having to put in all the work a man would have to in order to achieve the same level of success with the opposite sex.

Couple the above with the perceived value society places on female sexuality and we're left with the sluts vs studs dynamic.

There's no need in answering this since you've already got your mind set. Isn't it great how far into insanity the feminist women has pushed you people? lol

If she liked sex and wanted to have fun...that's not being a whore. It's just being free spirited...I mean I don't agree with it. but if you want to enjoy yourself then do so. You may be a hot dog through a hallway at the end of the day, but at least its exercise.

Most of the responses I've read from the guys below are reversing cause and effect. It's popular to say that men "earn" sex while women just passively "give it up." This is because, at least in their social worlds, women are expected to deny men sex and are called "whores" and "sluts" if they don't. Thus women have a social obligation to refuse sex, which requires men to "hunt" women, which causes them to brag to each other about their hunting prowess, which causes them to chase after more women to earn respect from other men, which requires the women to be even less willing to have sex in order to protect their reputations. It's a self-reinforcing cycle.

IMHO, this is a primitive, obsolete, and unfair way to think about sex. I'm not impressed by the number of people any guy I know has slept with and I don't call women whores or sluts for sleeping with many people. (Not that I'm a total Zen monk about it; I do catch myself judging women, but it's for who they slept with and why, not how many people. I do the same thing with men. I try to be gender-neutrally judgmental, but I'm sure some bias slips in once in a while.)

While I don't see any reason* sleeping with many people is somehow evil or shameful, it is dangerous. The risk of spreading infections obviously increases for people with many partners, especially for people who aren't choosy about their partners, don't use condoms properly or at all, or fail to get regular STD testing. This goes for men and women, even if the transmission rates for particular diseases are often unequal between genders.


* I've heard plenty of excuses, but they're illogical and stupid. That doesn't count as a "reason."

its more of a just because you can doesn't mean you should sort of situation. most people will agree that its harder for a male to score than a female. if a guy were to put up a sign saying have sex with me for free, how many girls do you think would participate. now lets imagine a girl putting up a sign saying have sex with me rite now fo free. how many times do you think she will have to go to the abortion clinic? alot, so its a lot easier for a girl to get a guy, and if she does this, its simply to satisfy a lust for sex, and women who happen to sleep around often simply get called whores. but they are just horny.

its actually tougher as a male, unless he rapes her to have sex. but in this crazy world, he has to build trust, and "prove himself in most cases, so that a girl will approve of sex. its simply that he merits the sex while a girl doesn't have to do anything, so she's abusing her vagina which merits her the name whore. if a girl likes to have sex, then get another horny person, preferably a man, and have a lot of sex with him. if this is boring then go have lots of sex with lots of guys. what ever floats your boat.

I just found out one of my good friends, that is female, is doing roughly the same thing, haven't talked to her since. I have had several partners but never without an emotional investment and it is better that way cause you are almost guaranteed it will happen tomorrow and you know they are clean. I personally think less of all people if they sleep around, especially when they brag about it. You'll be up crap creek without a paddle when everyone thinks all you do is sleep around and you are looking for a stable relationship. It depends on the person on who they congratulate.

Congratulated? lol

I sure as hell don't respect male players just as you do.

The world is just messed up that's all..

I suppose it comes down to equality, or lack thereof, in some cases. I don't see sleeping around as virtuous no matter what the gender, but if a girl wants to do it then she shouldn't be held to a higher standard than a man. Honestly, I agree with the notion that a lot of the insults come from other women, usually out of jealousy.

I welcome as much prior experience a girl can have in bed over me.

Because when people don't like our sex life and tell us to change it, we tell them to go to hell.

There's a lesson, there.

well you can go with the scientific route...

where it is scientifically proven men are emotionally disconnected during sex.
when men have sex...they build no emotional connection with who they are sleeping with...unless a strong emotional connection exists before hand...all emotional senses are SHUT OFF during sex. (this isn't my opinion...it is fact...read a psychology book if you disagree) ... women on the other hand...build a higher emotional connection with their sexual partner during intercourse as chemicals in the brain are released.
so for most men it is an emotionless act...thus making it easy for them to go high five their buddy afterward for a job well done...or not well don't for that matter lol.


now onto the verbal nature of it all...

you have to think for a second ...who it is calling these women whores?
yes ..men do ..but the majority of them dont...most guys calling these girls whores are the guys who tried to sleep with them and failed...so it is just to save face in regards to their own life failures and to protect the inevitable stress on their egos caused by being rejected by a woman.

so where does this whore bashing come from?
women.
that is where it comes from.women bashing other women.
the majority of this name calling that takes place is coming from women...you guys bash other women all the time calling them whores and sluts and skanks. you label one another out of jealousy..and out of insecurity. you guys do the exact same thing that men do making it socially acceptable. if women would stop bad mouthing other women calling them these names...and stand up for themselves...it would make the double standard a little less powerful.

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I'll expand a bit on the biology side of it, but CaptainFrost speaks the truth.

Social expectations, religious restrictions.. all of it comes from our knowledge of how sex works -- sex, until very recently, meant babies. Sometimes it still does. The goal of a woman was to find a good mate (although in the past, her family usually chose for her), and have many children. The goal of a man was to provide the "seed" for those children. Many cultures would encourage their soldiers to impregnate the women of the enemy -- assuming of course they didn't just kidnap them -- to 'water down' the bloodline of their foes.

There was nothing to stop a man from fathering children with dozens of women. The same cannot be said about women; 9 months of pregnancy per child, lackluster medical care, limited resources to support children.. who would WANT dozens of children? This is most likely the basis of what we now see as the "double standard". Despite our current view of it, systematic control of a woman's sexuality wasn't a malicious act.. it was seen as something that was best for ALL involved. Ever talk to a highly-religious woman? She, despite her limitations, doesn't see herself as oppressed. Ignorant? Maybe, but she's also unlikely to end up on the streets, on welfare with 6 kids and no father.

Things have changed a bit, but you can't expect thousands of years of conditioning to disappear simply because women are "liberated" now. Consider that sex can still lead to a baby, and a man still has no control over what happens to that baby. He cannot force an abortion, so should she decide to keep it.. he is at her mercy. Likewise, should he want he to keep it, he cannot stop her from having an abortion. An oft-overlooked double standard. She has control over her own body, but also over his pocketbook. His future. So, obviously, a woman who seeks out multiple sex partners is not only seen as irresponsible (higher risk of getting pregnant), but also someone who cannot necessarily be trusted to make a choice that considers the best interests of BOTH parties.

I should point out that the change in motivations (then and now) is due to the fact that a father often wasn't forced to provide for all of his.. conquest children. Now we are. So unnatural. Most species have a large disparity in the number of females to males, so males provide children and go on their way.

Myself, I have no problem with sexually promiscuous women, at least when it comes down to the act itself. My problem is with the amount of control I'm handing over to them every time we have sex. The risk of pregnancy is too great to have sex with women that I don't KNOW would get an abortion. The solution? Male abortions. Allow the man to cut all ties (financial, legal, etc) to the child should he choose to, leaving it up to the woman to decide what to do with her body. Of course that will never happen, so the double standard(s) are here to stay. xD But that is what a vasectomy is for.

one way to avoid that situation would be not to have sex with people you know
or know you .then noone can call you a whore also don't talk about it
just remember to be safe hiv etc..

yea it seems like a double standard

but there is no denying that a woman can get sex a lot easier than a guy can.
all she has to do is ask a guy if he wants to have sex and 9 out of 10 guys will say
yes, if she's even moderately attractive.


This could almost never happen the other way around, unless the guy is rich and famous or something. you gotta take em out to dinner, flirt, play games and woo her etc. in hopes of the chance that you might get lucky.


since it is so much more difficult for guys, when a guy actually "scores" other guys praise him for the good game he played and the work he must have put into attracting her to the point where she would want to have sex with him. If he is the type of guy that can get a lot of decent women, there must be something cool about him if all these ladies like him, so other guys think he is cool.

Even when women see that a guy is popular with the ladies, they are subtely more attracted to him than they would be to a guy who is just sitting there by himself looking like he never gets any sex. So we are somewhat rewarded in multiple ways for being being this type of guy...you know,.. the type of guy that women say.."why am I always attracted to the wrong guys" kind of guy.


With women, everyone knows that they can get sex more easily, so there isn't really any achievement in accomplishing having sex with a guy. So other women won't praise her for this. And if she is having sex with many guys, they will think she is just giving it away too easily.

For men of value, they like a woman who is attractive, but when she's getting very popular and flirty with lots of guys its turn off. They refer to girls hat get with lots of guys as 'hoes'. Many guys actually like 'hoes' because these are the guys that can only get sex from the women who are easy.There's a whole industry made to cater to guys who can't get decent looking women on their own merits.

Theres also the fact that we are biologically different. For example, A guy cannot get pregnant and stuck with a baby, so women have to be more vigalant about the partners they choose.

There is also society, for that last few thousand years telling women not to be like this. Religeon etc.


Personally I think a woman can get with whoever she wants as many times as she wants and I don't think that she is a 'hoe'. I think these kind of names are reserved for the girl that cheats on her boyfriend with his brother etc.

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It's society's double standard. A comedian once said that for a guy to be a player, he has to be charming, witty, maybe good looks, and maybe a bit of money. For a girl it's slightly different case. Men typically have to approach the woman and overcome the fear of rejection. (not to say women don't get rejected either). I guess what I'm trying to say is it takes a lot of work for a guy where a girl just has to show up at say the club or the bar. However that is not to take away from all the time you girls spend getting ready because I know that takes a lot of thought and effort too. For a guy you have to go out there and "hunt", so the more "trophies" you get, the more it's respected among the other guys because other guys know how hard the hunt is as well.

Hope that clears it up. It's a stupid double standard but I hope that shows you a bit about the other side of the coin as well.

It's a holdover from the days before birth control and DNA testing. Back then, a guy never knew if a kid was his. Sooo...obviously, girl who slept around were considered less desirable.

We get this question here all the time, and the issue of 'praise' really boils down to the fact that for a man getting laid is a relatively engaging process with many variables to consider. For a woman, well, all she has to do is spread her legs and wait, really. I know western societies are pretty pussified as it is, but it's still stupid to expect glory for achieving the trivial.

Who cares what "they" call us! Get yours girl! as long as you not F'IN on bodys elses man your in the clear in my book. and yeah we can sleep with damn near any body we want. but if guys think they are doing all the work they need to look @ it from our side. we have to look good all the time just to get a glance and god help the girl that over 150 lbs we have to work twice as hard to be "cute, or sexy" So F' them and F' them good!

It goes back to the puritans, the Victorians, and other female-suppressing groups. The ideology was that females should keep themselves pure as possible and wholesome. Since most of America is derived from these groups we still carry about these customs in a roundabout fashion

It sucks, but that's how the cookie crumbled >_<

I don't think anyone whould be praised for having sex with many people. It's a double-standard in this world.

There is a lot of things to consider in the situation, I for one feel very strongly on the subject and your rite women should have equal rites to men and we should be treated the same.

One thing to consider is that woman are a lot more bitchy and snarly, and also likely to get jealous of the fact and are more likely to gossip.
Men are more competitive and likely view it more as a game and winning, being better than there mates.

Yet a girl does it for the pleasure the same reasons, but because of social conditioning is made to feel bad about it, and I for one have thought "god I'm a slut, on that well known walk of shame home"

Also in the 17-1800 - even before - it was viewed as bad for women to have sex with anyone until she was married.

Fortunately though stereotypes are changing and women are being given more power in the eyes of the Media. And Program's such as Sex And The City empowered us and showed the world a new breed of women, the strong independent self working woman, that can do just as well as a man so this has helped to change the view on women sleeping around.

It's a slow process but we're getting there. Until then go out and have fun, do what makes you happy. It's your life and I think sex is something to be Liberated! Enjoyed! it's a natural human instinct. We're entitled to have just as much fun as men., and for the same reasons. :)

Here are some new statistics for woman and casual sex.

- 7 out of 10 British women have had a one night stand.
- 8 out of 10 women sore no problem with enjoying sex with a stranger if the circumstances were rite.
- Women under 21 have more sexual partners than men - on average, 9 lover4s compared to 7 for men under 21. ( shocking huh? )

It's wrong for both men and women to do this. It doesn't matter to me what everyone else believes. A guy who sleeps around is just as disgusting as a girl who does the same thing. But since girls can get pregnant it makes it just a little bit worse. What you do sexually doesn't only affect you... It affects your partner, and any possible children that may be conceived. And even if you are using protection I still believe there is something psychologically wrong with people who sleep around excessively.

I think it completely a choice made by men and women. Being called a whore, well I believe if its the same situation with how many people one is sleeping with, both are whores. It doesn't matter if you are male or female. I have friends both male and female that sleep around, and they are both fine with being called whores, no matter their sex.

A women can have casual sex if she wants to just as much as a guy.It doesn't make you a slut or take away anything from you.If you so chose to do so you should at least have protection and not just rely on a guy to have it.Anyone can purchase a condom so have them if that's what you want to do.Realistically unless you're not having sex or both are virgins having sex could possibly leave you with something you weren't wanting.You just have to protect yourself in whatever you choose to do.That's just my opinion.

me nd my friends were JUST tlkin boutt that yesterday and we decide "f_ck it, we CAN do what we want" because its funny how a girl's NOT expected to be that way, but YET, if a guy decides he wants to be for instance, "friends with benefits", they expect a girl NOT to catch feelings, so it doesn't make any sense! we're supposed to bewith you and oNLY you but YET, you don't expect US to get all mushy and emotional on you!

A woman sleeping around is disgusting.. it just is.

everyone's going to have different opinions on this.
i don't praise guys or girls for sleeping around because there's an increased risk of contracting a disease of some sort and it affects your rep or whatever; I was raised in aconservative background so that's just my opinion.
i am conservative therefore I'd prefer a guy who doesn't sleep around and doesn't take care of himself. I need a guy who'll value me for who I am . that's my opinion. some guys are going to be shallow or biased and say guys can do it and there are no consequences.
common sense is missing in people who think this.
guy or girl, you can get an std if you f*** around too much and guy or girl, it affects yoru relationships in the future. so it's a no brainer, think about consequences when you're doing something and all is good...

I'm sick of all the chauvinistic posts from some of the guys. That kind of response is the reason why there are double standards.

Some men have a real problem with feminism, like we're going to take over the world from them when all most feminists want is equal rights-which we still haven't got on a global level so the fight continues. Some men have a lack of respect for women; just regarding them as objects.

The secret for girls, if they want to sleep around, is to do it but don't tell people. The problems arise when people know and they start judging you. Girls are expected to keep it on the downlow and to lower the amount of guys she's been with if a guy asks (if its a lot). Girls are prized on their purity in society-I think guys just want to think that she is relatively untainted but then if a girl is good in bed, how do you think she is? Eh through practice of course. Most people aren't amazing at sex at first. Practice does make perfect so I think girls get a raw deal. Even if she kisses a randomner that's considered bad somehow.

One of the guys said that its girls that are the problem for perpetuating this double standard. I think the double standard is there in society already, probably by men originally but that now women will openly call another woman a slut behind her back which doesn't really help things.

I have a huge problem with this double standard as well. I am a sociologist and I can answer this stupid double standard. Men engage in a macho culture that praises sexual prowess. The role for women is submission to men. If men can get women to submit to their wills, men are macho. Masculinity and machismo is also displayed in other ways, other than sex. They include being the breadwinner and fighting.

Since the traditional roles of men and women are only just beginning to be challenged, the double standard lives on. Sluttiness is a social construct, meaning it was created and promoted (thus, continually recreated) by society. In order to destroy and do away with this double standard, both women and men would need to rethink gender roles.

I have been wanting to get a large group of women together who would engage in sexual acts however they wish to according to their preference. I would imagine that after gaining some significant disapproval, people would get bored of criticizing the women. Plus, if it's a large enough group, after people get bored of the criticisms, the general population may begin to think about gender roles and the social constructs of the machismo culture and women's role as the submissive character.

Men and women are different biologically. We also can't pee standing up and they can't menstruate. We can't do everything they do.

When women have sex, our bodies release a chemical called oxytocin. It's the same chemical released during childbirth which causes you to bond with your baby. This is why commonly women end up bonding with their sexual partner and get deeper feelings for him and feel more connected after sex. This is not so for men. It's kind of stupid on the woman's part to sleep around and tie herself emotionally to all these guys who just see her as a piece of ass anyway.

A woman's vagina is arguably one of the most powerful things. Wars have been started because of sex, or a man trying to get it. Some men can be broke as hell, down to their last dime but they are the same ones at the strip club or paying for prostitutes. Why give away something that has that much value to men indiscriminately? Sluts do it for free, at least whores get paid.

Personally, I don't think it's very attractive for either gender to sleep around.

Because men gives this bullsh*t excuse that because they are male they have a biologically right to sleep around because that's what they were programmed to do. They think it is out of place or wrong for a woman to do the same as females do not have this "biological programming". Therefore men think they have the right to call any woman who does sleep around a slut or whore.

Regardless of what people say about men and women who sleeps around, you as girl, do you respect your self when you "give it up" to every guy you meet or date, I mean seriously just think about it, do you think it's respectful if you sleep with many men and actually brag about it, if anything it's trashy and very cheap, I don't respect people who do that regardless of their gender, what's low is low, what's trashy is trashy, whether you're a guy or a girl.

Maybe to their friends, men who sleep around are held in high regard. But to women, this is not an attractive trait.

True that. The closet thing to stamp a guy with is the term "Manwhore", but then like you said, all that does is so that he enjoys sex. I think it has to do with what the previous generations titled women as: innocence, purity, home-like...While men were always given the right to be "in charge" with their life, as if they could do anything. As if women couldn't help but be like that. And now, since women are more sexuality active, the society becomes outraged.

I just researched that for a psychology project. In studies where participants are asked to compare men and women with similar sexual histories, the women aren't judged more harshly than the men, which suggests that there actually isn't a double standard. People tend to look for cases that confirm their belief and ignore the cases that prove them wrong, so they pay more attention to the instances where there is a sexual double standard.