I have a question regarding things that are happening between my boyfriend and I?

I read your question and all the responses to answers (from you) to come up with this conclusion.

This guy is attracted to you physically - simply put, he is interested. If he didn't want you in his bed or in his life, he definately wouldn't keep you around. That's just how guys are- imagine big bertha, there's no way I would let that person in my house let alone near my children, she could be the biggest hearted women in the world, but I just wouldn't do it.

Your responses indicate you are frustrated with the outcome of your responses. You have been seeking what you want to hear and an answer that makes sense- nothing is. The reason why this is happening is not "His fault" read some of your responses:
- "Prada no it is not an answer that I want here other than the truth wanacot made a comment so I responded if you don't like reading my questions go to another site bouyah - 3 days ago"
-- This response indicates that because you didn't hear what you want, that you ended up snapping because you wanted to hear something else.

QUIT! This is purely emotional, you need to relax and take a breath - what you are doing right now is strangling him, me, and everyone else in the world with acting the way you are. You are being a form of controlling. Without getting the right answer, you get HOSTILE - not a "i'm sorry, this isn't working so ill try another answer, thanks" or not responding... No, instead you are getting verbally violent over this thread.


I think you need space from everyone, your stress levels are through the roof and they won't slow down until you can control your mindset on reality. There are things in this world that happen for reasons we never understand.
Here's your example: He said okay and twenty minutes later called me sexy instead
- I don't understand it, and very few others will- it's not him that is the problem, nor the situation. But you're making a situation out of it by not just accepting the outcome and working to make it better.


I'm not trying to be rude, but seriously, get away from the computer and relax. Get away from the relationship and breathe.

I feel like I have responded to this before? possibly the same person?
The guy seems like he is avoiding the subject of your attractiveness and seems like he has the potential to cheat on you. (He was dropping off our dog at the airport) Does he fly with the animal to the show? or does he drop it off there and then do his own thing regarding "business" -- Just my thoughts, but it feels like he is cheating.

Either way, it is unacceptable that he is saying different things, especially that way - I would rather someone lied and said I looked okay clothed and "sexy" when I was nude. If I were you, I would appreciate myself more, but less infront of him. What I mean by this, is that you start to cut him out of the picture and find someone that can actually appreciate who you are and mean just that.

Having a business with this man doesn't seem like a good thing, I would grab your prized animals and move on, this guy isn't worth the headaches.

Best regards,
ArtistBBoy

Getting hung up on is never a good sign. Chances are good he hasn't forgiven you, like he said. At this point, I think whether or not he finds you physically attractive is the least of your worries.

This is always hard with getting back together with someone. Most of the time both people want it to work, but old feelings can't help but creep back up.

At any rate, I wouldn't hold out hope for something to work out. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but think about it. You could be with a guy who holds a grudge against you and makes you feel like you aren't pretty, or you could start over with someone new who makes you feel special. It's really up to you.

Your description makes it sound like he's completely using you?

What are these pictures he took of you? Just when you where out?

I suppose he could be easily be still mad at you or fed up of you asking if you look ok? if you ask too often guys can become Blazze about the answer to that question.

I can't judge from what you say about wether he's physically attracted to you.

Don't ask him that question any more. If he shows you that he doesn't want you then I wouldn't get back together with him. It might not be you, he might be having difficulties that he's too embarassed to talk about, but either way you won't be happy. If he really does want you but is having other problems then it will be up to him to tell you that if he wants you to stay. Don't make him say things that he doesn't believe. Good luck!

You need to take a step back here and work on what even you admit is obsessive behavior or you're going to lose your boyfriend again. I'm not there so I can't judge the situation completely, but I think your boyfriend is getting tired of you always questioning him and nagging him. He just sounds tired of arguing with you and like he is getting frustrated. Back off and give him some space.

Why did he say you were "okay" then call you "sexy"? Simple, he said "okay" as his first reaction then seeing how much you were hurt/upset by it upgraded your status to "sexy". It may not be a case of him not thinking you're sexy, but guys have a tendency to say things like "you look fine" and the girl taking it the wrong way, meaning they think average or boring when in fact that's not the case.

Also, stop asking the same question over and over.

This guy is either:
A. Just in it for the sex.
Or B. Bipolar

Confront him about it, give him a reality check.
Let him know you're not playing his little mind game.

Sounds like there are some trust issues that need to heal first before he will be able to open up again. Give him time and work to build the relationship back first.

He is physically attracted to you. His problem with you in emotional.

He is physically attracted to you.
That's about all.

The reasons you mentioned for the original break-up are pretty important to a guy.
You essentially emasculated him.
I can't see any reason he'd even want to get back together with you.

IMNSHO, you need to see a shrink.

Ted

Well, it could have a number of meanings. He might just be trying to make you feel bad for whatever it was you did to upset him in the first place, but obviously if he got back together with you then he must at least find you attractive enough for his standards. I wouldn't worry too hard if he finds you attractive or not, he's your boyfriend and if he's not calling you beautiful every time you ask him, he's not doing a good job.

Most people are more attractive with clothes/lingerie on than completely naked.

I personally find a girl sexier when she's got some nice underwear or a hot outfit on than when she's completely naked. Doesn't matter if she's got a "perfect" body. What you find attractive isn't always what you see but what it triggers in your imagination.

if you really did ruin his business, that could take a while to forgive.

If he said you look OK, then to him you simply look OK. It's a hard truth to swallow, but it's still the truth. Now maybe he's just not very eloquent. Maybe you're a smoking hottie and he can't justify the ego boost. But chances are he's just not all that physically attracted to you. Supposing that's the truth, you're not doing yourself any good crying about it. And you'll definitely drive him away by obsessing on it (i.e. asking him specifically what he likes and dislikes, what girls he thinks are hot, what clothes work on you, etc).

And honestly, is he a hard bodied chunk of man cake? It's okay for a woman to love a man and still realize he's not as good looking as he could be.

You already asked this question, if you need clarification please let me know as to my previous answer - Best regards,
~ArtistBBoy

Its hard to say. Though your reaction to the sitation could have been a real turn-off (a girl worrying about how we see her is rarely sexy after the aged of 28 [its "cute" for a young girl, its "sad" in a woman]).

When we are young we are sexy because of youth, when we get older we need to be sexy as a person and how we hold outselves. If your not confident in your looks, your partner won't be either.

Treat yourself to some pampering, buy something you know your partner would find erotic and surprise him with it. Also, sometimes its the "denial" which leads to us being more sexy. Less is often more (e.g. teasing, slow build up, unexpectedness).

Most of all, find your confidence.. sometimes even flerting with other men in front of your boyfriend can be sexy. The idea that other men want you will increase his sense of want (don't of course give the men the wrong impression lol. Just little touches and let them show you then find you attractive.. your partner will want to show you he does more then).

Here's my feelings if the same thing happened:

(After you got upset about not being intimate)
I would've felt like you didn't care about what I wanted, maybe I had work on my mind and I wasn't in the right mood- either way it wouldn't be a deal breaker

(Being mad *myself*)
I really wouldn't have been "mad", more-so confused. I probably would've told you that by getting upset you made things feel awkward and asked if you wanted my opinion on how to handle the situation.

Nude/Dressed
The guy is very confusing. Either way, as your boyfriend he should make you feel more beautiful which will give him less headaches. I am impressed he didn't say something like "babe, your fine! quit worrying" but it bothers me that he gave two different responses. Why should you be "sexy" with clothes, and without you are "okay"


In your shoes, I would move on- he doesn't fulfill your needs physically or mentally. He calls you hot when you are covered up but can't embrace your body nude. It feels like the relationship is not compatible and possibly destructive on both of you. My advice is either talk with him about what he is doing (giving him a chance to correct it) or move on.

Best regards,
ArtistBBoy

You might be just "ok" in his eyes because he is turned off by the "obsessive" tendencies you had in the past. You seem to be very in to him but he seems to be pulling away from you.
I suggest you fall back a little and give this man a bit more space breathe. He might have gotten back together with you but he is not completely over things that has happened between you two. He seems as if he needs sometime to gather his emotions.

I don't think looks should matter that much.
And if your worried about something like that then he isn't even worth it.

Did you call him when he were working? If you called after work, there are some signs telling you something. I believe if you're honestly to yourself, you would had some answers already.

I had the similar issue with my ex before we broke up. Even he still answered my calls. It made no improvement to our relationship. Especially, we both couldn't forget the huge argument we had. And I finally realized that he wanted me back only because he hadn't found another girl yet. And at that moment, I was matching to the standard of what he wanted his girlfriend to be.

If you still really in love with him, try backing off a little bit. If he is able to date you without any physical interaction. Than it's a sign shows he is still interesting to you. Otherwise, ... I believe you know what I'm going to say.

Good luck girl, be brave!

that doesn't mean he's not physically attracted to you. he was likely still mad and that's why he commented that way

Im not a guy so I can't say for sure but maybe he was trying to "punish you" you know? Making you feel like your in the dog house or something,sounds like he was pretty mad at you but its also immature.
Of corse he is physically attracted to you but he doesn't seem to hold you in high esteem or be very respectful.

He's just playing mind games with you. From what I've read, you sound pretty vulnerable and easily manipulated. You get upset about something and he turns the tables and blames you.
He's keeping you emotionally off balanced by giving you mixed signals - you're just "ok" and then you're sexy. While he's busy spinning you in mental circles, you're going to be so busy trying to keep him happy - you aren't going to be able to figure out how he needs to please YOU. Why aren't you beautiful to him because he loves you?
If I were you, I would steer clear of him. Good luck.

OMG Don't Worry What The Heck He Thinks About You, As Long As You That Your BEAUTIFUL No Matter What Others Think. And I'm Also Pretty Sure Your Freakin' Gorgeous! If He said That You looked OK Well I Think You Should Look For A Guy That Thinks Your BEAUTIFUL not "OK"...that's my opinion

you missed the whole point...
you quoted

"he was till upset with me for being obsessive"

and what are you doing now.. obsessing over this.

relax ... stop over analyzing it[i know its hard].. you are making too much of it.. he will be turned off even more if you obsess over it. you guys just got back together, although you do not post the reason for your breakup maybe its something severe enough or serious enough for him that he needs time to re-adjust.

You'll be fine, you just have to abstain from asking obsessing in front of him. Be cool lady.. just relax, if he came back to you is because he cares..