So me and my friend (whom I like) met each other while she was dating one of my old friends in High school. He was a total d*** to her, and I was already kind of drifting away from him when they FINALLY broke up. I say "FINALLY" because after months of being off and on with one another she finally cut him lose. During that time period I told her that I liked her. Well that was a mistake because she simply told me "Oh I'm not interested in anyone else right now" because, unknown to me at the time, she planned to keep breaking up with him and going out with him. She went through a lot of mental anguish during that time period and I kind of poured it on with the "Will you go out with me?" crap.
She didn't find interest in anyone else for a while after that incident...So I tried again a few months later, but low and behold she had fallen for one of her ex's friends. He played head games with her though. He said he liked her but was more interested another girl who liked him as well. Anyway, I talked to her about dating again and all I got was the "we are friends" response from her.
After few months she started dating another guy. Thankfully he had nothing to do with her previous ex. Just before she started dating him I yet again asked her if she would give me a chance. I was met with "He already asked me, and I feel like giving him a chance". Well our friendship was strained after that point and we didn't really talk to one another for about a year.
The following summer her boyfriend moved back to his hometown in Penn and decided to break up with her. I was there for her and since she wanted to be friends again I was all game, however I had no feelings for her this time around. She then started to develop feelings for her 1st ex's friend once again (same guy). He was playing head games with her and some other girls at the time...so eventually (after I had a heated argument with her) she realized that he wasn't worth her time and apologized for arguing with me. Since then there hasn't been anyone that seems interested in her, and I find myself falling for her again...especially since she seems to be making better decisions with her life.
I feel like she is giving me hints that she might actually like me this time. She is more physical than any other time in our friendship, in a touchy sense. She likes pushing, playfully punching, getting REALLY close to me when I'm showing her something and not moving away when I get close to her. We make lots of eye contact, and sometimes I catch her staring and see her dart her eyes away quickly. She talks to me a lot about anything and everything, but has a hard time letting me know what she is feeling sometimes; she's a tomboy so yeah. We've both discussed what happened in the past and it seems at though all has been forgiven/forgotten according to her.
I don't know if the past rejections really would play a part this time around, but they concern me while I decide to approach her about my feelings once again. Any Advice about how I should handle this?
It's possible that she could like you back now. I was in a similar situation once where one of my guy friends liked me, but at the time I liked someone else, and only thought of him as a friend. Me and my friend kind of grew apart, but when we reconnected, I realized I really liked him a lot. So, anything is possible. If I were you I would just go with the flow and try not to get your hopes up just in case she does reject you again.
It really depends on how she acts towards you now! Girls and give off werid signles. We have a tendicy to not wear our hearts on our sleves so we won't get hurt, she could be pushing you away to see if you fight to get in or to see if you give up, wait for the look, she will give you the look if she is interested
She didn't want to date you before. She doesn't want to date you now (or rather she shouldnt deserve the opportunity)
Have some pride and close that chapter of your life, there are tons of other people out there. P.s. This girl seems to like the bad-boy type, with the mind-games and all. I think she has classified you as a friend, granted- that can change, but it isn't likely to change soon.
Yeah that makes sense. I would like to make it clear that I was interested in other women while we spent that year apart, and those said women were interested in me (boost to self esteem lol). Things just didn't work out with them. Anyway, It's just a random occurrence that she came back into my life really. So it's not that I was hung up on her or anything during that time period we spent apart. My friends (which are her friends too) have observed the same odd behavior from her recently. - 26 days ago
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If you really want to give it another shot, flirt with her back and hang out with her - it will happen naturally if it is supposed to. When you ask questions, you seem less confident which could be a deal-breaker for this woman.
=) Just a thought... - 26 days ago
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Thanks, I'll try doing that. - 26 days ago
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Yw - do I have best answer material =P - 26 days ago
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Ill take that as a no lol =) Glad you found your answer! - 26 days ago
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Didn't see your comments until after I selected her answer xD. She could relate more to the situation so I liked what she had to say. Don't get me wrong, all advice is appreciated and considered lol. Thanks for taking the time to give me your 2 cents though - 26 days ago
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=) Anytime, it was a pleasure answering your post - 26 days ago
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