I've known this girl for about 5 years. She's 5 years younger than me but we've been practically inseparable since we've known one another. We started off with her calling me every hour, asking me anything on the planet, and I'd make her laugh and what not. Apparently back then she used to like me but I didn't know nor was I interested (I mean, she was PRETTY young). After a few years, I began to develop deep feelings for this chick and I wanted to see if we could work ourselves into a relationship. She didn't want to and it drove me nuts. We remained friends but it never changed how I felt about her. She always came to me whenever she had ANY problem and she'd always call me her "best friend" (I'm pretty sure she was just pandering).
Well, some drama got between us and we stopped talking for about a year. Out of the blue, she texted me just to see how I was doing and from there we got to talking again. I couldn't believe how much I had missed her voice and how much fun I had just talking to her. We're both in college now (I'm about to graduate, she's in her first year) and I still feel the same way about her. We can still talk for hours, joke about everything, and nothing ever gets between us (that is, unless one of our friends gets involved but that's another story).
Now I'll get into the latest. Over the weekend, she came up to see me (with her friend who is still in high school and is a complete and total bitch) for a party I was throwing. She and her friend got here late (her friend was drunk) and we were hanging out at my place but she was completely distracted with the phone and whatever. We seemed to be having fun until she and her friend blew me off (to go see some other dude? Dunno). I got upset, not because she went to see someone else, but because she went drinking and driving in an area she doesn't even know. I gave her a chance to apologize the next day and she made it pretty difficult (I wanted it to be just her and I, and tell her friend to politely "fuck off"). Even then, she was still distracted with her phone and avoided what I wanted to talk about when I got her alone. She and her friend then left about 20 minutes later to go to another party in another town and she was drinking and driving again!
We get along more than we fight, and we always "kiss and makeup". I just can't believe that we can be so close and be all for nothing. I'm debating whether or not her "friendship" really means anything to me considering I just want a relationship with a girl (her track record is actually pretty good, she's always in LONG relationships). Is this girl just stringing me along? Is there ever going to be something more than this? I'm ignoring her right now to gather my thoughts and think emotionless but I could use some advice.
I agree that she's still young and immature and wants to party, which can put a damper on a relationship. If you really like her, just keep being there for her and eventually she should come around when she wants to grow up. Good luck.
Yeah, maybe I'll end up calling her after all and try to mesh things. But I don't think I'll carry on the same friendship with her that I used to know. Not until I know she's going to be serious. - 6 months ago
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That sounds like the safe thing to do. I really hope things work out for you hun. - 6 months ago
It takes time in relationships for things to settle. You seem totally ready for a relationship, but she is not sure what to do with the friendship. Most times when guys try to take the step from Friendship to Relationship it can be bad and other times good. She seems like she comes in time of trouble and comfort but I wish like many times on here that I knew the person better so I could explain the problem but I can't.
I think she's too young at the moment being that she's doing the party life. She needs to get out of the crazy life and wake up to real life which will come in due time.
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