Every time I start to really like someone I all of a sudden start getting paranoid. For instance, id think that I'm not good enough, and that they would never like me and maybe they like my friend more and that I shouldn't even try and that I shouldn't risk it because all guys are jerks... and so forth...
Its never like that in the beginning of a crush but as soon as time goes on and my feelings get bigger the fear kicks in and I runaway from it. Basically avoiding the person I like / liked..
why do you think I do that and what can I do to overcome this fear?
No, seriously. I know it sounds like I'm being sarcastic, but I'm not. Your fears are very common among people (e.g. me 10 years ago) who have never dated anyone but assholes. I later ended up in a few relationships with girls who *weren't* perpetually abusive, putting me down, playing games, cheating on me, lying to me, etc. It was great.
Every time I end up dating someone who treats me poorly, the old fears come back. Then I stop talking to her and find someone who isn't like that. Then I can't even remember what I was afraid of :)
Hi, I have the same issue haha, it starts out as a crush and your just happy to be around that person but when it develops in to more the realisation that your heart is on the line here is often too hard to bear so we run away from it. Im still trying to work out how to deal with it but my coping mechanism is to be very very selective. If it doesn't seem right or that chemistry is not there don't persue it unless your 100% sure that the person is the right one for you at the moment. Easier said than done though and good luck!
I'm the same. I'm 21 and I've never been in a relationship and there's this guy I like have liked for two years ongoing and he knows it but I have never done anything about it. I have never um let's just say I'm not experienced at all and I am very scared about it, not so much of being with the guy but what we would have to do if I was with any guy ;) Anyway anyway, I wouldn't worry about it too much or we can just worry about the same loll g luck! - 17 days ago
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