Settle this between my friend and I. Who is right?

It depends on the guy and whether or not you're willing to go along with it. I don't have the patience to play games--if the phone rings and I can answer it, I'm going to answer it. If a guy doesn't want me to answer, he shouldn't call. That's not chasing; it takes plenty of effort to only respond to certain messages or answer certain calls, all for the sake of being "unavailable". That's a bit backwards in my mind, but some guys like it, and some girls like to do it. It doesn't work for everyone, but it works for some, so you're both right.

-Pick up your phone
-Answer my messages
-Don't play games

>should we just have a life, answer when we hear the phone ring (mine is always on me, so I always hear it!) and tell you how hot and great you are whenever we feel like it?

I like this strategy. I am much more likely to date someone who acts like you're describing.

There's no way in hell I'd date your friend, even if she looks like Natalie Portman and has a billion-dollar trust fund. (I might sleep with her in that case, but I'd never, ever call her back. What's the point? She won't respond and she'll look down on me for not "playing the game.")

Your friend will turn off many (all?) of the sane guys who are interested in her. She'll definitely attract lots of dudes who are out to prove they're "players" or are too desperate/creepy to take no for an answer. But hey, if she's into that, that's her business.

You both have different perceptions. For her, she has noticed that making men play mind-games to be with her, keeps them interested. On the contrary, you have your own view that shows you like men that can be communicative.

No two people are the same and as-such, you are both right.

Imagine walking into a bar
- One person is sitting at the bar ordering drinks
- One person is playing pool and hasn't drank all night
-- Person A would rather enjoy some drinks and maybe a conversation; while, person B probably enjoys some good competition with friends, while interacting non-verbally instead.


My personal preference is that people should avoid mind games - but to a certain extent, mind games could work with people that are naive to what a mind-game really is. When people start understanding the process involved with "mind games", or other psychological BS, they will interpret things in a different way than when they didn't understand these things.

It's merely personal and sociable preference. If the guy you are with responds more to open conversation versus little mind games, the situation requires your perspective. If the guy was more responsive to mystery and head-games, it would make more sense to approach him with mystery and mind-games.


Always remember that you need to be yourself, if you aren't good at mind-games - Be open. There is nothing wrong with communication.

Best regards,
ArtistBBoy

Your both right, in a way because some guys enjoy the chase and then you have guys like me, who prefer girls who are more open about their feelings and let me know what's on her mind. I get easily frustrated if I'm trying to figure something out and have to chase around for answers.

Be an individual not a group. Do what you think is right and she does what she thinks works for her. Everyone is unique stop arguing and embrace it! Situations everyone faces are also unique as well as the men you guys date. After that laugh at how corny my answer actually sounds and answer the phone.

well I got this from my FATHER so guys do not get mad and say oh women are playing games because my daddy put me up on this. I was seeing this guy for a little bit and I didn't play any games with him, then he lost interest and started blowing me off. every time the guy called me I'd answer like clockwork, I'd always text him back and I hung out with him whenever he called to make plans.

my dad noticed that and gave me some advice he said that guys do not like girls that are too available for them. they come off like they have no lives other than them and men prefer a woman they have to work for. I don't think you should play games, I think you should actually be too busy to answer the phone all the time. don't clear your schedule for a guy, go on with your full life and fit him in where you have room. if he really is into you he will not only be impressed that a guy is not the center of your universe but it will make him be more persistent (if he is really interested in you) to get your attention.

so yeah play the game in the beginning.

It does kinda help to play games when its necessary. Depends on the guy...if he's a jerk or if he plays games with you, do it back. Sometimes playing those games keeps them around longer...cause its a challenge. Some guys like a challenge, and I know girls do. But you do what you feel is right. Everyone thinks differently.