Men play mind games?

With guys, I tend to go hot and cold. Partly to protect myself from getting hurt and also if the guy does something stupid, I get annoyed but usually won't say it. I'm not fantastic at expressing negative feelings in relationships because I do think men will take advantage of any vulnerability. I think a lot of girls have this problem tbh. Women don't consciously allow themselves to be played-a lot of them don't know any better or if they do, they think they don't deserve to be treated better.

But men defo play mind games too. Your original question does make out its all women's fault (before you put the update up) which is unfair. It does depend on the person's mentality most of all. I have a female friend who has a "guy" mentality-she is always the more dominant person in relationships. And some guys can be really passive and shy too [which I hate btw!]

I think men and women play mind games equally and I think men and women allow themselves to get played equally.

As a guy, you see a woman walk up to a man who you know is a dog. You hear everyone tell her he is and you shake your head that she still goes into it. But as a woman, I do the same thing with guys. I watch the girl with all the makeup and short skirt walk up to the guy and shake my head cause, as a woman, I know that this guy is going to pretend to not see what she is like and dive in head first into a big mind game.

Guys fool themselves just as much as women. Your girl complains about all her friends and family but surely she won't complain about you. She gives you a blowjob on the first date but surely she is going to be a good and faithful woman. She never seems to have enough money to pay her bills but surely she will work and keep a job when she is with you. She is always fighting with her friends but she is never going to cause you those headaches. Guys tell themselves whatever they want to hear cause they just want to get into a relationship. The same way a woman tells herself that he is going to be a great guy some day when everyone knows he isn't.

Search this site. You will see posts from men and women saying that the object of their affection has a boyfriend but wants to be with them so what do they do. Does either person stop for a second and wonder if the person will do the same thing to them? Of course they do. But they jump in anyway.

Just cause someone's playing with the black pieces and someone's playing with the white pieces, it doesn't mean they both aren't playing chess. Men and women's games may look different but at the heart they are the same.

And both men and women get attached to a person that is going to hurt them in the end but don't leave because they don't want to be alone or they think they can change them or they think that love will change them. There are a million motivations for why people stay with awful people. Both sexes walking into the relationship seeing the persons faults but they think that they can handle them.

I don't play mind games, though I do wish my boyfriend could read my mind at least once in a while. I only date truly nice guys, so, no.

guys sometimes do play mind games
one of my ex bf's led me on to think we'd get back together but the truth was he was with an on and off girlfriend for 7 monthes or so and he kept saying he missed me or wanted to see me-i guess I'm odd for a girl because I can't play mind games-i'm pretty honest

well I deffinately think with the mind games women tend to take there own perspective on what a man say and twist it and turn it to what they maybe want to hear. When what they percieve is not what is meant, that is sometimes what gets women hurt

thats just an excuse to be manipulative. no one allows themselves to be mistreated. if you punch someone do you say, "that's your fault you should have moved out of the way of my fist?" or are you wrong for punching them? I agree we do need to be more objective and analytical of a guy's actions early on, but some men are truly manipulative and liars if you're human you're gonna get hurt by someone.

i play mind games. I definitely have my guard up for guys and I don't put that much trust in them in the beginning. I think you should never put all your eggs in one basket and I am quick to cut a guy off too! I have been played in the past and I am not letting it happen again.

AGREED! 100%

Personally, I do play mind games. But only to keep myself from getting hurt. Ususally the opposite happens and I get hurt anyway. But at least it's my fault. Men do play mind games also. I know a few who do. Women don't purposely set themselves up to get hurt, it just happens. Men are idiots.

alrighty, so I'm gonna play a little bit of devils advocate here... first off everyone plays mind games, its almost human nature, I don't think men or women do it intentionally to hurt someone(most of the time, there are some sh*tty people out there). But as for women putting themselves into a position to get hurt, I definitly think that a lot do. I think, even when women know how big of a scumbag the guy is, they choose to be with them anyways because they live in a fantasy world that they think, oh he'll change for me, he really loves me, or its going to be differnt this time... I blame this on disney, giving little girls false hope of how love really is! ha

So because we actually WANT someone to trust we are the ones who ALLOW ourselves to be hurt?

Uhm. NO.

For myself, I am always straight up- don't want to have sex, don't.
Don't want to hang out, don't.
Don't want to do this or that, then I don't.
Your guy's "fowl" play is simply an insecurity or some sort of creep way of making an excuse for being immature.

Most guys will NEVER know what it's like to have complete vulnerability towards another person- not saying that's what love is- but it's a way of trust. And because of that most guys will never really know what it's like to actually completely love someone.

Mind games are terrible ways of communication and note high immaturity.
Say what's real and do it.
Freaking duh.

In the 1st place why even start or go there... A person messing with someones head can never be trusted! I just had that kinda thing going on with one guy & it ended up him beggin for a relationship where I just turned him down.. But I can't trust or belive that he wanted that relationship. So I'm glad I asked him to leave!

I think it's foolish to say that just women play mind games and men do not. That would be like saying that only men are shallow when it comes to physical appearances and women are not. Both men and women play mind games. What you have to take into consideration is that not every single person out there does this. Many people, both women and men, are much too mature to play mind games whereas others can't seem to grasp the fact that they are not teenagers anymore and that they need to start growing up.