She's buying this other guy gifts...

I could see her buying him A SINGLE really cool gift like a signed ball or card, or maybe even 1 of each. But she really is trying to please him a lot. A lot more than I would with an ex who I have no feelings for but am 'still friends' with. And far more than I would do for a guy I am not seeing when I am in a relationship with someone else. She is lucky that you respect her friendship with him. I am still pretty good friends with one of my exes and I am glad a guy I'm seeing now is the type to respect that. But I know there is a limit to his tolerance and I'M GLAD! So I haven't ever come close to pushing it and I don't want to. Just me calling my ex on his birthday when I was out with my current guy was enough for him to say "that's why they are called 'exes' - because you don't have to do that anymore!" Haha, but then he stepped away and gave me time to call.

I think he handled it perfectly - he made his feelings known in a funny way, but I am completely clear on his feelings. Then he stepped back and let me make the call in privacy. I made the call, wished my ex happy birthday on his voicemail, then didn't bring it up again.

It's good you are accepting, but be clear about your limits. If she's already gone beyond them (sounds like you think she has), let her know. If she continues to, tell her you need to move on to someone who doesn't have such strong feelings for their ex.

To be quite honest, I think she wants you to be a little possessive and assert yourself as her man. It's a little insecure and immature on her part, but it's easily remedied with some reassurance. Don't be brutish, just show her it matters.

No I don't think ur worrying to much because I personally would thinj something was up also and that's a lot of money to spending on an ex

Well if she's buying him maybe ONE special thing that he really likes, I guess that's ok. But if she's buying him multiple expensive gifts, then something's not right there. I think you should talk to her about it and let her realize that what she's doing is going way overboard, especially when its her ex.

i would be worrying too. tell her to chill the f*** out!

That's not a good situation for you. I would not be surprised if they were messing around on you...that's not appropriate behavior. you're right to be worried.

I do not agree with what she has done. I would definitely be a little worried about this but that's just me.
If they are exes but also best friends then I can see her maybe spending as much kind of money on this person.

nope you're not being weird... maybe you need to confront the situation... that's...uh... VERY weird... I would never get someone a $200 gift... uh especially not an EX-boyfriend! plus I'm a student so I don't have the money... haha but still...
But then again, maybe it's her personality... has she ever given you extravagant gifts? Have you seen her give others big presents?

oh, how sweet, your letting her have two boyfriends

my ex-wife did the same thing and turns out she was sleeping with the guy. tell her she needs to tone it down a bit..talking and small gifts are one thing but visiting and buying expensive gifts for a "friend" that crossing the line to me.

ummm... 1) you are an idiot for putting up with that. 2) why would you ever agree to her going to visit her ex-bf... visit alone for one, two visit at all. . . well, I don't really have a 3... You guys must have an open relationship right?. . .shes bangin this dude when she visits him...He is a guy.
Unless, he is just the perfect guy...but, they broke up for a reason. I dunnooo, me personally, I would never let my girlfriend probably talk to her ex-boyfriend. . .and I would never say, yeah, sure, I understand, you guys are friends, Yeah-go visit him! . . I don't know man, I don't know how your relationship rolls. . .

This is a very, very sketchy. I would also be very uneasy about this. First of all you don't go to just visit your ex from time to time and buy them such ridiculously expensive gifts. Sounds like she still has feelings for this guy. Who broke up with you in her past relationship with this guy? And further more I personally would tell her how uneasy I feel about this situation. Trust me if she cares about this relationship she would do whatever is in her power to keep it.

She is playing with the baseball bat from both teams...great for her..sucks for you and the other poor slob. I bet he thinks she is still his "long distance" relationship. She can't play for both teams at the same time on the same field.

Talking is one thing, BUYING EACH OTHER GIFTS, then to make it worse "SHE VISITS HIM OUT OF STATE." Seriously, what do you think they are doing, bet you not playing cards...

You're not being weird at all, you need to respet yourself and DUMP this girl..

I wouldn't even let her go see her Ex like that.