Update: this has kinda gotten a little outta hand. if someone already posted something that you said, no need to repeat it. my inbox is lik super full now...
11 days ago
Update: GIRLS- what do you think of guys who do it?
6 days ago
You would run away in a girls time of need ? good support way to go. - 12 days ago
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I wouldn't be capable of reasoning her, thus I have to lrave that to the shrink. Sending her to a shrink would be the ONLY way to help her. - 11 days ago
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Professional help. - 11 days ago
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When: 6 days ago
I'd help her get over whatever her reason is and get her serious help. It's not exactly a good sign
IF...you ever meet a guy who does not send you to a shrink but accepts your cutting, run as hard and as far as you can: then you got a real pervert on your body. IF you meet someone like that. I hope you won't!
Anyone who can be next to someone and watch her/him cut without intervening (and getting professional help!) has an E.Q. and empathy below zero: that is NOT a normal way to behave. (Neither is cutting) Both are symptoms of deeply troubled minds. - 6 days ago
its bad... they need someone to talk to and someone to help them out... cutting is really one of thoes things that will haunt them for the rest of their lives like WTF was I thinking when I did that... i have mutiple friends out of HS who did and they are thinking WTF why did they do that..
Everyone needs a form of escape. Some drink, others do drugs. Some abuse others and others abuse themselves. Cutting is only gross because of the blood and lacerations. Its the scars that tell the story.
This is an ENORMOUS shameless fallacy: NOT everyone needs a form of escape like drinking, doing drugs, abusing. The world is full of people who do NOT cut, do NOT get plastered, do NOT do drugs, do NOT abuse others or themselves. Everyone needs a form of escape but there are many forms of escape that are NOT harmful or injurious, that are harmless and innocuous. NORMAL people read, go to the movies, watch telly, listen to music, make love, travel, watch birds, even go to church, ANYTHING :@ - 6 days ago
Your poll answers do not fit the question. 'Cutting' is indicative of a serious psychological problem that requires therapy. A girl should not be abandoned, shunned or rejected because she cuts herself. She should be first helped. Once she has reached a stable presence of mental wellness then she can be considered for a possible relationship. Until that time it would be a reprehensible notion to exploit her condition just to 'get some'.
What I think isn't up there in the 5 options as well.. I think people who cut themselves don't understand fortunate they are.. they were probably spoiled as a child because that kind of behavior seems to suggest it. The only reasons I always see is like UnknownFox said.. they can't take school work or homework? That's pathetic.. millions of kids in the world understand the importance of an education and theyd do anything to get one to escape poverty.. and these kids cut themselves because they waste their time chasing girls or boys and get depressed when someone doesn't love them back..
Truly ungrateful and pathetic behavior.. I would not date a girl who cut herself.. I would try to be their friend and try my best to explain to her that what she is doing is childish and immature.. I hope she would understand.. if she can't get it through her thick skull, then no thanks.
Yeah, because growing up with sh*tty parents who constantly yell, a dad who drinks like a fish,and a mom who left them when they were 12 for a pedaphile is spoiled. i got yelled at for asking for school clothes. I went to a standard dress school unitl high school in the mniddle of the ghetto. I lived in a room probably the size of your bath room. I NEVER knew what is was like to loved back. so sorry if it hurts. but I was anytihng but spoiled. sorry if I tend to act childish and immature because - 12 days ago
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I never got a freaking childhood. I lived in hell. f*** you. I'm not spoiled. - 12 days ago
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I said "probably spoiled".. not everyone. your taking my answer too personally.. I don't know what its like to have a childhood like yours so I won't act like I do.. but either way.. I don't understand how causing yourself MORE pain makes you feel better? - 12 days ago
5 answers and not one of what I think. I used to date someone who cut and granted it was the worst choice I ever made because I cared deeply for her and was more worried about her seriously hurting herself. I can hang out with people who do it, granted I wouldn't exactly be thrilled cus I don't understand at all how anyone can.
I see cutting more as a sign of weakness, when instead of cutting they could be taking the frustration out by killing a bunch of people on a game, taking a walk, or just doing SOMETHING other than putting a blade to the arm. Afterall that's what you just need to do, have a bad day at school and also have a series of infections from where you cut yourself.
Yes I have heard people say "I do it cus I can't handle the pain at school or work" but those people I want to slap silly cus there are people who have it 100X worse and are working to try and fix it.
I don't agree with the options you gave for answers.
A person who cuts is in serious mental pain, whether from stress anxeity or family issues -- it doesn't matter.
What matters is they need someone to talk to and love them. It doesn't matter if it is a friend or a boy/girlfriend. Someone to show them the reality of what they're doing.
If a guy I liked was cutting himself, I would be horrified and saddened, and just want to be there for him to lean on. ((like I had when I was going through that awful time))
yeah cutting isn't attractive. it shows a persons weakness and lack of caring for their wellbeing. those answers in the poll are a bit silly- self harm really isn't cool babe! also a lot of people tend to do it as a kind of attention thing, which is equally unattractive love yourself and take care of yourself, and people will love you equally as much!
Im only so passionate about this because I used to cut when I was severely depressed when I was younger, like I tried suicide and I was in hospital for 5 months when I was twelve. and since getting better I regret it so much because it really isn't worth being like that, a lot of people can stop themselves doing it so there's no point. - 10 days ago
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