I met this great guy this summer. We hit it off immediately. He took me to meet his co-workers, his friends, his brother... He referred to me as is girlfriend, held my hand, talked about how wonderful I was to his family... We live about 40 min from each other - we would see each other about twice a week, alternating who drove where. Then he went on a trip, came back. Everything was good for about a week and a half. I went to see him for a long weekend. After the first day he said he wanted some alone time. I thought we were going to spend all weekend together - but I left. He calls about 10 min after I left and said he missed me already and wishes he didn't tell me to go. Then it seemed like everything was ok for a bit -We went out on a Sunday - had an amazing time, didn't want to leave each other's side - I thought maybe I was just imaging that he changed... Made plans for him to see me on Thur... Monday, Tues, I didn't hear from him. Wed morning I left him a text: Hello? thought you were going to call? I get a nasty text back like - oh great all I need is you bitching. I call him he says he had some family prob the night before... So he was in a bad mood or whatever... Later that day I get a text message accusing me of something really horrible. I called him and said he was totally wrong and that I could even prove it - which I later did. He apologized but it was so unbelievable. It all went bad after that. I stuck with him because I thought he might just be going through a bad spell but now his behavior is so unpredictable. He flips back and forth between being totally affectionate - to telling me that he doesn't consider me his girlfriend any more. One moment when I try to kiss him , he pushes me away saying he isn't interested - then the next morning he is all over me. When I try to ask him what's going on - he will basically ignore me and do something else like focus on TV and make comments about the show, or wander around his apartment. I am going through a super busy time and while I try to make time for him - he acts like I don't - especially if I can't see him when he wants me to. That's the thing - he wants me when he wants me. Otherwise - I'm unimportant. Here are a few other things that happened - If he texts me and I don't respond within a few minutes - he gets irritated. However he can not pick up my calls or answer my texts for days... Initially he said how he wanted us to communicate and say how we feel, now he won't do that at all and gets mad when I do. He got mad because I got a text from someone I work with ABOUT WORK. But he shows me an unsigned card he got - with a girls handwriting and asks if it was me - (it clearly wasn't he knows my handwriting). His behavior flip flops so much. I don't know what to do or what to think... We have only been dating for 4-5 months... I don't want to give up on him but am I fighting a losing battle? Btw he is 35yrs old.
Yea, I believe he may be bipolar. He's fighting some inner battles it seems and ur the only person he can take it really out on. I used to do something that I'm glad I'm pratically over with. But I used to blow up on the ones I loved most. and these people thought I hated them. but I really didn't. Take my best friend for instance, if I was going through something, I'd ignore her and I subconsciously did it so she would kno something was wrong and try and help me. I guess since I couldn't help myself. and wen she tried to cheer me up and help, I'd act like I didn't care and act like a basic bitch. all the while inside, I just wanted to cry and tell her everything that was wrong, but I couldn't. and then wen I felt better a little after, I'd apologize, and want to hangout and try and make up for it and all this stuff. but wen I started feeling bad again, the cycle would start again. for me, it was just inner battles. it sounds like that's the case for him. so I hope that explains a bit for u. this will probably go on for a while unless he changes himself. which I had to do. which took hard freaking work. so if you want to stay with him, you're in for a ride. be his girlfriend but also be his friend. he's going to need one. and he needs to know that there needs to be a change.
Ive been wondering about that - he behavior is so up and down - he actually is taking medicine for something else which has been known to have these weird side effects that make people nasty and aggressive - I'm starting to wonder if that is part of it too. As for being his Girlfriend - who even knows - he told me about a week ago that "we are not in high school with Boyfriend and GF" which is weird since he was the one initially giving us these labels and now he finds them stupid.. - 14 days ago
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Do you love him? and yea... I can see how that can be frustrating. Yes, maybe the medicine is giving him side effects that are making him act so but don't let him get away with all of it by using that as an excuse, ya know? - 14 days ago
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