Am I right to be annoyed?

For starters, what guy when asked if he will cheat, says- "Yes of course I'll cheat, it just makes sense." No. Every man will deny it, no matter his intentions, unless of course he is joking- which he will make sure you realize it was only meant to be humorous.

Now, moving on to the pressing issue at hand... Yes you are completely in the right to question this girl he is talking to; however I am not condoning any "jump on this back" behavior either. I have had short conversations on the phone (with girls) while in my girlfriend's presence, but I make readily aware that it is just a friend and I keep the conversation short and always try to mention that I am spending quality time with my girlfriend so I must leave- bye.

Another thing for all you fellow guys out there- Do Not... call your girlfriend crazy, or paranoid, or schizophrenic and mean it, only when you're joking can you say these things, and even then make sure the time is appropriate. Your girlfriend has reasons for the way she feels and her feelings are not completely random, so take this into consideration before you deflect her question with a derogatory statement like such.

PeachesAndCream-
I think that being annoying will not solve the problem, you take him aside (on a casual, good, day) and ask him about it. I'd like to say demand and answer, but don't sound demanding. Let him know that you are frustrated (without taking the frustration out on him) and that you need honest answers, there is no other way around it.

You have a right to be annoyed!

Depends on this relationship with this girl, I'm 19 myself and have been mates with this girl named Toni since I was a little baby. We grew up together, I barely even see her as a girl, she's just the second half of me and we always got along.

If I had my girlfriend getting all jealous and annoyed at me catching up with that girl iv known all my life, then yes I would expect my Girlfriend to get over it. Although if it was like a girl I met last semester at college, then you probably have every right to be worried he's doing something behind your back.

I do this all the time, anyone I dated and interested in me knows I keep it plain and simple. If your troubled about it, then your insecure and unless they get together every now and then and he keeps mentioning her after that, he's doing no harm

Whether he is doing anything with her or not is not really the issue. He is spending time with her, and creating an emotional bond, so he is cheating. Time to turn him into a "friend" instead of a boyfriend, and keep your options open. Because it appears he has already decided to keep his options open in regards to her.

Good Luck,
James

I don't think you're wrong to be annoyed or suspicious, because his reaction when you confronted him says it all. He should have let you know who he was talking to for so long, or at least when he found out he should have shown you that there was nothing strange going on. He may very well not be cheating on you, but he should have made you feel more comfortable about it when you found out.

He is disrespecting you, and possibly becoming emotionally attached to another girl. You should think low of him. If he can't explain it realistically (i.e. we are working together on a project etc.) then why believe him?

If he just met the girl, jump on him about it. I wouldn't deal with that bullcrap. If he's known her for a while, don't sweat it.. they're just friends and they're probably having friendly conversations. It's not unusal for a guy to have friends that are girls.. however, if he's hiding the conversations from you or not telling you about them, then there is reason to be curious. Now, you don't want to be paranoid.. talk to him about how it makes you feel and tell him it's just unnerving and makes you somewhat uncomfortable and let him see it through your eyes... how would he like it if you were texting guys for an hour or hours at a time?

If he is your boyfriend, then you absolutely have the right to know what is going on. You need to confront him, if he is cheating he's not going to admit it, and who knows if he is or not. Find out who she is to him. Don't distrust him until you have a reason to, she could just be a very good friend. But establish your dominance. Know your own value and stand up for yourself. If you have legitimate reason to believe he's cheating and/or he's doing something that bothers you and after you've talked about it he's still insensitive to why you are upset and unwilling to change, let him know you aren't going to let yourself be toyed with and move on if need be. There are 6 billion fish in the sea, why be with someone who can't give you the affection you deserve? (If that is the case).

First off, when a dude says you're being paranoid that means your suspiciouns are probably accurate. If you have talked to him about it and he knows that it bothers you and he still continues to do it then he obviously doesn't care to much and doesn't respect your feelings and he is most likely cheating. Let that boy go because like gucci say about girls us ladies can say the same about boys "miss one next 15 one cumin" find you sumone else. You can do better.

Ok, first of all. The way you feel is jealousy, but it is completely normal. You have ever right to feel the way you feel. If he wanted to be with you and if he loved you then he would take your feelings into consideration and limit, if not discontinue all conversation with her. It is not right for your boyfriend to talk to another girl for long periods of time and create an emotional bond with her. I would sit down with him and talk to him about it and discuss your feelings with him about it. If he still says your being paranoid and doesn't take your feelings seriously, then I would move on. Being with him if he continues to talk to her is just going to make you worry non-stop. I've been in a relationship with this problem before and it got so bad that I began to have panic attacks. I can hurt you emotionally and even physically. Give him one more chance to realize how serious your feelings are, and if he doesn't take you seriously then move on. You can certainly do better.

I think you have every right to feel how you feel. He is causing this strange paranoia you have about him and this girl. But maybe she might 'just be a friend' as any other guy friend you have. But he should treat it like he has nothing to hide and explain who this girl is. My boyfriend has done things like this too and I got suspicious. Actually I have looked at his mail (I got trust issues after for many reasons) and figures he was flirting with other girls behind my back! Don't think too much of it unless he really has a reason (especially if he gets really mad and offensive about it that he won't even let you hear what they are saying). Just watch it just in case... but don't be too naggy about it in case he's right and you look like the fool. He should put some boundaries too. But at least he isn't hiding the fact that he is talking to her behind your back and sending weird text messages. Just hear what he says and if he says anything flirtatious it could mean something.

U should be annoyed and p*ssed. My boyfriend said the same thing, we had the same exact situation as you. Letting them talk together let him get feelings for her and he left me for her. So just tell this guy to pick between you or her.

I think I would be annoyed honestly, because I think that affairs can be emotional as well as physical...if they've been friends for ages then I guess that's fine, but I usually only spend that amount of time talking to people I'm close with i.e. my brother, my friends...I donlt think it means that he's cheating per say or even that he's going to, but if what you're looking for is validation that your annoyance is justified, then I'm with you...I'm not an intolerant person, but that would definately make me uncomfortable. xxxxxxxxxxx

You have a right to be paranoid. As a girl, I would definitly be suspicious. He should clue you in on who he is talking with and why. Its not being controlling, it would just save him a lot of trouble in the future. Mabye you should find out who this other chick is. Don't get into a fight and freak on her, but just let her know he's your boyfriend and your alittle concerned. She should understand.

I'm the kind of girl that talks on the phone for HOURS with any one of my friends, even guys. It's not that I'm interested in them, nor are they interested in me, we just have nothing better to do, so we spend it talking on the phone.

I think you should trust your boyfriend, although you have a right to be suspicious, but if it was me, I probably wouldn't care, after all, I'm on the phone for hours with other guys too but it doesn't mean I'm cheating.

I don't know any guy who would talk on the phone for that long unless it was with a girl he was interested in. Maybe that's just the guys I know, but I don't see what they could possibly be talking about for that long.

I'm not a very jealous person, but that would bother me too. Saying that he wouldn't cheat on you doesn't prove anything. And he turned it around to make you feel guilty rather than reassure you that he's not cheating by saying that you shouldn't think so low of him. If he were more considerate of your feelings, he would at least give you an explanation of why he talks to her for that long.