My 5 year old got into trouble

5 yo boys have contests to see who can pee the farthest. Slapping another kids butt seems fairly harmless for a 5 yo imo, unless it was really hard, and hurt the other kid. I suppose you would want to remind him that our society expects us to keep our hands to ourselves most of the time, but any normal kid is going to break social protocol now and then. In short, I wouldn't over-think it if I were you.

Too young to have a child and have that experience, but when I was in 5th grade a kindergartener saw me walking down the hall, made "woo"ing noises, ran after me down the hall, and slapped my butt. that's a bit different than your experience, yet innapropriate touching did creep me out. I think that like the "anonymous" person said, it's kids trying to figure out no-nos, and maybe things they've seen on tv? just remember watching mtv when I was in elementary school, too young for it then!

I wouldn't worry. This does not sound like a violent incident. If your son had punched the boy for no reason, then I'd be worried. This sounds like something any kid would do though. Young kids have a fascination with bottoms and spanking because they are just learning about keeping certain body parts private and they know about spanking as a punishment. There is a sense that seeing a naked butt is a special occasion! Anyway, don't worry about it. This is a normal kid thing to do.

When you talk to your son, tell him that you know he spanked the other boy. Then ask him if he thinks he should have done that. Tell him that we don't touch other people without their permission. Ask if he would like to be spanked for no reason. Then tell him to apologize to the boy. Then once he has done that, say that the incident is over and you hope you won't ever hear of him doing anything like that again.

Call the other boys parents and apologize. Tell them that your son was horsing around, you have talked to him about it, and now he will say sorry.

That's it! You don't need to worry any more about it. If the other parents make a big deal about it, then they are overreacting.

My mom works at an elementary school and stuff like that happens, it's just innocent curiosity.