being friends is normal, having a close girl friend is even better!
you don't have to have sex with each other because you don't have to be attracted to each other anyway, you don't have to impress them or anything. You will stay in the friends zone as long as you both do that. best friends remain friends with each other with no romance or sex involoved. although some move it to the next level ( some people like to know one another before getting into anything) and sometimes one or both of the friends end up having feelings for the other.
so its no big deal, its actually very good, easier and more fun! I prefer having a close good guy friend over 5 bitchy gurls who might stab my back! but you have to remember that once you have sex or start having feelings for the person, that's when you either ruin the relationship or perhaps having soething greater!
I prefer having a close good guy friend over 5 bitchy gurls who might stab my back! Lmao. Thank you for the laugh hon. - 3 months ago
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Its true! gurls do that honestly, although am a feminist, but I have to admit that having a guy friend is much easier for lots of reasons! - 3 months ago
Women tend to be their own worst enemies, and coming in at a close second, every other woman's worst enemy. Or so has been my experience heh. - 3 months ago
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I have one close girl friend , she is like a sister to me and once other chicks are involved, they try to ruin the friendship we have. so am sticking with ONE chick friend and bunch of other close guy friends - 3 months ago
That makes sense. I have no understanding when it comes to why people wish to destroy other peoples happiness. if anything, being miserable myself has made me appreciate happiness much more and not want to bring about misery on others. Most people tend to be of the 'if I can't be happy you can't be happy either!' mindset, but apparently my brain and my emotions work backwards. - 3 months ago
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Sure, 'if I can't be happy you can't be happy either!' aloooot of people do that lol sick and pathetic - 3 months ago
Sometimes. In my case, it a guy is a genuinely close friend of mine, it stays that way. They keep me in the friend zone as well. We end up close because we're comfortable with each other knowing that I don't want anything different with him and he doesn't want anything different with me.
I HAVE had 'things' with a casual guy friend in the past. But that's a casual friend. I wouldn't start something like that with a guy I'm actually close to because I don't want to jeopardize the friendship we have. A casual friend is a casual friend, so I'm not risking much by trying to take it in another direction. The relationship and feelings CAN change, but when I'm close to a guy, it's like a brother-sister bond.
That's just naturally how it works for me. I'm sure it varies from girl to girl.
Sometimes the best relationships start from the best friendships though! I understand not wanting to risk such things, as I tend to have many women friends, and I'd be devastated to not have them in my life at all, just because I had to try to have my cake and eat it too. But I'm the kind of person that wouldn't let one bad thing spoil another. Just because I 'dated' a friend and that aspect didn't work out, doesn't necessarily mean that person will be out of the picture in every aspect for good - 3 months ago
By the way, how did the whole back thing turn out, did they figure out what was wrong and get you better? - 3 months ago
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No no no! I totally know that, haha. And there's nothing wrong with taking that risk. I'd actually almost prefer knowing someone really well like that before starting a relationship. But I've kind of conditioned myself to avoid that kind of situation because liking my close guy friends has never worked out for me in the past. I guess I shouldn't let that discourage me because I can't really control it and I hate avoiding my feelings. =P Naw, I didn't go back to the hospital, but it seems to be - 3 months ago
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Getting better. I still wake up stiff and achey, and walk like an old lady for the first half of the day, but it's not nearly how it was before. I just take some ibuprofen when I get up and then it's manageable. So I figure x-rays would just be an unnecessary expense, not having insurance and all. - 3 months ago
I feel bad because I cracked up at that, not your pain mind you, but just the image of a younger lady such as yourself walking all old lady like! I had to chuckle, sorry=P I've often considered the fact it is going to suck to get old, as I'm pretty sure I've never known the joys of feeling young myself. No, you shouldn't let past experiences discourage present and future possibilities but I'm guessing by your picture and ability to use a computer you are human, and that is a very human response. - 3 months ago
Pretty sad when one has to take into account ones expenses when considering whether or not to seek medical attention=\ that kind of thing makes Jeffery sad. I hope it works out for you ...I don't like this character limit thing, but it's probably good for people like me that would ramble on without stopping unless someone stopped me. - 3 months ago
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I can't fault you for that. My mum thinks it's hilarious as well, haha. When I first hurt my back, I couldn't walk at all. Then a few days later I could walk sometimes, but only super hunched over, and with the aid of things to grab onto. I should have just gotten a cane or something. Now I walk fine, except in the mornings, when I can't straighten my back all the way. =P I just applied for a state-assisted health plan, which I don't like doing, but it should help. I hate the character limit too - 3 months ago
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ARGH because I tend to ramble as well. And as for not letting myself get discouraged, you're totally right. I've just been trying not to see people in my social circle in that light, which so far seems to be working, whether by chance or by my doing, I'm not sure. I just figure that I should try something different and pay more attention to other people. So far, so good. There's no strife, so I'm okay with that. - 3 months ago
Ha, you are too adorable sometimes..You turned into a pirate! Arg me matey! O.o I know I'm weird but then, will never hear me defend my sanity, as it leaves me quite often. Yeah, not letting yourself get discouraged from things you want is one thing, but not setting yourself up for definite disappointment for something that you are pretty indifferent to in the first place is understandable. I'm sure you have options other than just close friends so it isn't really a hinderence for you to do so. - 3 months ago
'you will never'** any other typos** Bleh I hate being anal retentive and having ocd at times. It doesn't bode well for my laziness and desire to not have to fix such things. - 3 months ago
Well thanks darlin. I often find myself thinking the same thing most times I come across your answers, because they always make me laugh. =] I totally did turn into a pirate though! My dad told me so today when we went to breakfast, and I walked with a hunched limp/shuffle/hobble, haha. Yeah, I figure opening myself up to different situations and not focusing so much on others can't hurt, even if it doesn't help either. My problem is that I live in a small-ish town and everyone KNOWS everyone. - 3 months ago
Some people just value others friendships and want nothing more than that. That is what is up with that. I have many women friends that will remain friends and nothing more, because nothing more is needed or wanted on either end.
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