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How do I get over feelin insecure about my looks?

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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)     When: 5 months ago
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People say I am good looking its so nice to hear. I been cheated on in the past now I feel insecure about my looks how do I get over this. I was able to forgive him for cheating I feel insecure about my looks like he will meet a more attractive woman. Help anyone

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Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
It may help to use a little mental conditioning. You know those guys that cheated on you are in the wrong, that's why you broke up with them. Now you need to make yourself think the thoughts

"He/they cheated on me because they had a problem, Not me. "
"I don't know what their problem was/is, but I know it's not me. I'm attractive. "
"Too bad he/they had issues, I was a great catch and they missed out. "

Also, don't forgive him for cheating- that isn't being true to yourself. You have to believe in your heart that you're worth more than that. Be angry, it's ok. The saying says "Forgive and forget" I say just forget. Being a nice and decent person, and forgiving someone isn't worth the price of your self-esteem. You forgive someone for spilling a drink on your shoes, not for betraying you.
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Question Asker I have understood a lot of what you have said but at the same time I want to be a good person I am tryin to work it out with him. I don't know if we stand a chance I am willing to try not sure if this guy can really be loyal - 4 months ago
Answerer I hope you make the best choice for yourself. Good luck. - 4 months ago
Question Asker Thank you. I love him a lot and for now I am trying to stand by him I know he loves me - 4 months ago

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Suave-Man
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Suave-Man (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Okay there's always going to be someone more attractive. I'd hate to say it but there are a couple of more attractive guys out there than me. But that's not going to deter me from looking in the mirror and knowing what's up. If everyone else looked like Brad Pitt then I would feel insecure and ugly (but this is reality, come on). But who cares which women are more attractive. They don't have your sweet heart or your tender loving care. Look in the mirror at your face, boobs, and butt. You know you look good and many guys would be more than happy to have a night with that. What you need is a guy who accentuates you. A guy who brings every level of yourself to a higher status. Not a guy who brings you down. This guy lowered you and he just deteriorates who you are. If you're standing on a rock in a river that begins to sink, what do you do? You jump to another rock to stay afloat. But you didn't do that, you remained on the sinking rock and now you're so low you're asking how to get to sea level. It's simple, swim to the surface and climb onto a stable rock. You were able to forgive him but you were not able to repair the damage to your self-esteem. You're not going anywhere with him. His power of lust is more powerful than his love for you. Lust is supposed to be used in association with love to bring the relationship to higher plateau. You're pretty don't worry you just feel unattractive because you've been used as a tool. You've been kicked aside not for something better but just for some "pussy". And you feel, "aren't I good enough? " It's not you it's just that this guy doesn't want one entree, he wants to sample a little bit of everything on the menu. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself, that's what we call a "good relationship". I don't know about you but I get into relationships (friendships with people) to feel good about myself. If I'm hanging out or being with someone that makes me feel worse then I'm going to drop them. That's called, "get the f*** outta my life because I don't need anymore problems. " If everyone was an ass I would remain by myself and alone, but since it's not like that I sure wouldn't pick an ass to be with. Those are what we call "burdens". Would you work at a job that entailed you getting stabbed at one point? Hell no you wouldn't , likewise why get in a relationship where you are going to get stabbed (although you didn't know) and then stay? I always forgive, but I could never say, "I forgive you for stabbing me and I will stay to work here. " Once you f*** with me I'm out. I will not settle for cheap unworthy scraps, I can only have the best. And this guy is scrap metal, he will never be the best. I don't care if you love him or really care for him. Jesus loved Judas but he had to let him go. Anyone who betrays you is an expendable item, so throw their ass out the window. You can always get a new one. Hey girlie, you're worth more than you think. You've just been with trash so now you feel like trash :)
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Question Asker I know I deserve better then him he broken my heart in a lot of ways , I just don't know how to move on cause I want it to work I want him to stop cheating and be loyal. Is that possible for a guy like him. - 5 months ago
 

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Kaybee517 (Age:30 to 35)      When: 5 months ago
Everyone has insecurities. I think as you get older and become more comfortable in your own skin, your insecurities lessen a bit. You are approaching your twenties or are in your early twenties and it's normal to feel this way (even beyond these years. ) Your ex cheated because he couldn't be monogamous, plain and simple. It' s his issue not yours. I get the feeling you think that if you were "prettier" he wouldn't cheat. Don't believe that. Think about it this way, if celebrities like Carrie Underwood, Halle Berry and Vanessa Williams have been cheated on, do you really think it was because they weren't pretty enough? To answer your question, try motivating uplifting activities like exercising, self affirmations, poetry, or listening to positive uplifting music. Practice acting confident. When your body is in order the mind will follow. Don't slouch, sit up straight. Walk tall , don't look down at the ground. Practice exuding some confidence and your mind will follow. Just believe it and you'll be it. It takes time. Remember if you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to? Stay positive! :-)
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Deeplove55
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Deeplove55 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Y? If your attractive? If a person is pretty, there's always someone else out there who is prettier,. You can't let that make you feel like there something wrong with your looks. Your attractive in your own way and him cheating with a prettier girl was his choice. Sounds like jealousy. But first, stop tellin yourself that your insecure about your looks and stop comparing your beauty to other women or you'll drive yourself crazy.
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Question Asker I know you are right. its just hard to get past his cheatin he cheated on me twice I know I am too forgivin we are tryin to work things out ... I know I am ok lookin just wondering if I was prettier maybe this wouldn't have happened - 5 months ago
Answerer No. it has nothin to do with how pretty you are. people cheat anyways for there own selfish reasons. So pretty or not, he would have still cheated because he is greedy and no good of a man. twice? ok. one time I can understand but again? he definitely does not care about your feelings at all. its all about him and I know you probably really love him but is it worth the constant worrying and heart ache? no. its not. Shame on him if he fools you once and shame on you if he fools you twice. - 5 months ago
 
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