Is it bad to be this housewife?

Full time parenting is good for kids, if that's what you want and can afford it. So don't get forced into going to work if raising your children is where you truly want to be.

Nothing wrong with keeping a clean house.

A healthy sex life and appreciation and consideration for your spouse sound like terrific elements of a marriage.

However, I think you might want to supplement your plan with at least a good education and marketable skills should you want or need to provide for your family. After all, real life isn't a fairy tale; sometimes husbands lose jobs, get sick, or, believe it or not, leave. Best to be able to take care of yourself and children in case those events come to pass. Likewise, the husband with the great job you land should be able to do a load of laundry or get the kids to the bus stop in case your ever incapacitated. It's called being capable, nothing more.

But don't buy into any of the crap that "working" is more valuable than being a stay-at-home-parent or homemaker. Likewise, don't pitch any crap that your chosen lifestyle at home is "priceless" or invaluable compared to those moms (and dads) that have chosen to hold down jobs. Either way works, depending upon how each family wants to function.

Don't listen to those that say you must get a paycheck to be "someone in life" or that you're "sacrificing your identity" if you choose to be yourself instead of just like them. See, the truth is everyone can be "someone in life" and only the insecure campaign to get you to be more like themselves. Instead, just be yourself.

God bless you girl. I thought girls who think the way you do are extinct. You are exactly the kind of girl I want my wife to be like. Other people disagree with you because the chance of you finding a counterpart who would do all the things you had listed is very slim. These are some thoughts:

1. Your future husband must be very wealthy or at least a millionaire type of guy.
2. Obviously he should look pretty handsome (lady's man)
3. Your face and body must be hot
4. You must have a personality uniquely yours and inner beauty (there are many hot girls in my school, but I only like this one girl because she looks amazing and she is "different")
5. Give him a reason to be true to you and not mess around with other hot girls despite his success
6. It is very hard to find a guy who fits all the above.
7. Make sure you are prepared to be independent in case anything goes wrong
Good luck on finding your man.

I think it's great you feel that way. Listen. If you follow your heart, you shouldn't have any regrets. When you grow up, you can be anything you want to be. Take care, and have no worries. You will have a happy life, just make sure you're happy with your future husband.

You would definitely have to be concerned about whether his income is capable of supporting both you and him, plus kids. But other than that I don't see why not! Plus, the example you put up sounds almost like dream come true, haha! The fact the you would still want to get an education is awesome, it'd come in handy raising children.

Eventually the children would grow to the age and be at school for most of the day, so you would have to find something to do while at home. Most stay-at-home mothers I know these days all have a job they can do at home. Either they do daycare, or they use the Internet in some way as a job.

I think staying at home to raise your own children is admirable, they'll have a better head start in life than if they were in some kind of community care facility. Especially if you take the time to educate them while they are at home.

The bad thing about being a stay-at-home mother is, you are out of the work force for that whole length of time. Employers aren't keen on hiring someone if they have huge gaps in their work history, or have never been in the work force before (if you for some reason needed to get a job later on).

It could work out really well if the money is there. If his one job can't support you, him and any kids then its probably not going to work out. It probably isn't something you should plan for and in the future and if it does happen then it works out for you but don't get you hopes up

I realize some people are still into the idea of having that 50's dream family. White picket fence, 2. 5 kids (whatever that means), a hubby that comes home every night to a home cooked meal and a perfectly-kept complacent wife. If you want to define yourself that way, um, okay. But I don't get it.

Reality check. Your sister and mom are right.

How bored will you be when the kids reach school-age and you have no disposable income to pursue your own interests? Unless you "bag a rich one", those "sexy outfits" will have to be second hand, living on a single income budget with kids. Forget about the gym membership too.

And what kind of guy is going to be attracted to someone with no ambition, no independence, no identity outside the home and nothing interesting/new to talk about? A shit guy, that's who. Someone selfish, who's looking for a mother more than a partner. Or someone who thought you were cool at first, but then realizes partway through that he wants something more. Either way you're screwed. Might be fun for a couple years, but it'll get old quick. He'll either leave you for someone interesting, or you'll realize you're bedded with a loser or a user, and that you have developed zero identity of your own. How boring.

I'm a CEO and after thirteen years together, we still have quickies, wake each other up with a smile and kiss, greet each other with big hugs, have coffee together before work and say 'I love you' on a regular basis. You can have all that without sacrificing your own identity. I know plenty of women who are incredibly happy and fulfilled who also have kids, but balance that with a very rich lifestyle, great relationships, satisfying careers, fascinating personalities and an enlightened world view.

That's what kids your age should be striving for.

That sounds like a fantastic idea!

For a cheesy movie.

Real life isn't like that, sweetie. You have to grow up and realize that life isn't a sitcom. Unless you have the powerful remote control that Tobey Maguire and Reese Witherspoon had in the film Pleasantville and can transport yourself into LaLaLand then I suggest you set real goals for your future.

Marriages are all fluff and pink clouds the first year. Maybe 2, where the whole hi honey I'm home kiss kiss is possible but then even though the couple loves each other, things become more of a routine and the big hugs and kisses are less and far between. And with the divorce statistics growing each year. Do you really want to depend so much on a husband? Maybe I sound cynical but it's the truth. Think about it. You pop out a few kids, your hubby works and you do nothing but stay at home and be that "perfect housewife". You never went to college, never worked. Things begin getting sour in your marriage for whatever reason. You get divorced. What do you do now? You have no money of your own, no job, no work experience which makes employers a little wary when recruiting, no college education so maybe you can learn to say 'would you like to super size your order? '.

And what if that happens when your 50?! You never worked so you didn't accumulate social security either. I mean. Really, think about it.

Go to school, get a degree, work, become a woman, be someone in life and don't depend on a man. It's 2008, we need to show the world that we are strong, independent woman and men are our accessories :)