I have 3 questions for all of the women out there. 1. Is the desire for a meaningful career diametrically opposed to having a family? 2. Why are we dressing like hussies? 3. Who are we trying to impress?
As for question one, let's consider. After the age of 35, it is generally accepted that it is dangerous for women to have children. For those of you who think that is hogwash, at 35, the child you bear will graduate from high school when you are 53. If that's still not too shabby for you, what is this statistic of finding love after you are 30 being less probable than experiencing a terrorist attack. I don't know where the numbers came from, but looking at it from the stand point of a career, you graduate from high school at 18, with a bachelor's degree at 22, and if you wish to pursue an advanced education, tack on a few more years. Now, if you are lucky enough to find the love of your life during this portion of time, you have to weigh the vision that has kept you going through school against that of your newfound love. What if your paths do not converge? Does one take precedence or do you both sacrifice? How many sacrifices are too many to keep from jeopardizing a future together? It seems to me that a woman living in today's society has to figure out how to fulfill the shoes of the "New American Woman", mother/ career woman, and we have to get started on both fronts straight out of high school. But we have to weigh our ambitions with our partner's, and we have to figure out on a practical basis how to pull it off before hitting 35. 18 to 35= is 17 years. Sounds fine, but you could spend over half of that in school. 3 kids = 3 x 9 months of pregnancy = 2 years and 3months of just being pregnant. And pregnancy screams "maternity leave". Not a great thing to have tattooed on your forehead in an interview for that high powered job. As for 35 on. With living expenses and average salaries, in a household where both parents work, how can you make enough time for bringing your kids up in a way that will benefit them in their lives, and not simply yield the next screaming, nose digging, frappuccino-addicted, gamer child? Is it a lot on the plate, or just flat out too much?
As for number two. Why are women constantly trying to push up, flash, and flaunt every bit of skin possible? Is this women reclaiming a sexuality that has been deemed taboo in the past or are we simply yielding to a call for women to be objectified? I would venture to say that some women could use a little bit of sexual confidence. However, have we as women brought ourselves to the point where showing off our breasts on a website, spilling out of a Halloween costume, and/or parading around in clothes that are uncomfortable for the sake of that extra boost to our bosom allow us to fill shoes that bring no intrinsic confidence but a constant state of judgment. Can we be sexy and confident..
Wow. Lots of questions. I'm in school, I just finished a BA and am starting a BSc. I want to do a Master's degree after (at least). I never really thought of education as a problem or obstacle to a family - I know a number of students in grad school who are married, who have a kid, something. Also, I don't think three kids is average anymore. I know that where I live the average is something like 1. 5. Maybe not thinking about education as getting in the way is because I've always thought of other reasons I don't want children (i'm scared of being able to do a good job at raising a kid and scared of how trying to do a good job will affect my life/lifestyle). But it is an interesting point. I think a lot of women lack sexual confidence and put their bodies on display instead. I feel confident about my sexuality, and I feel like that is attractive in itself. I think a woman can look very enticing and sexy in clothes that actually aren't very revealing at all. I wear jeans about 90% of places I go, I don't think you can ever see midriff and while I wear low cut tops, they never reveal any cleavage. However, I am fit and proud of my body and I think that the right cuts and designs can show off my figure in a sexy way and still retain an elegance and a bit of class. That's not to say I've never put on a short black dress, or worn a low cut top. I just think that there are moments where a somewhat sexier (yet I should hope still classy) look is acceptable. However, I really think the girls regularly showing everything lack confidence and rely on people gawking at them to get it (as you suggested, maybe the media is part of this problem). I think it is time to cover up a little and start respecting yourself for what is inside. In the long run other people's appreciation of what is inside is more solid and stable than their momentary reactions or your body's ephemeral beauty.
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