I am hoping to get some real insight about this guy. He started flirting with me heavily about 2 months ago. I hadn't really even paid him that much attention until he started flirting with me. I see him almost everyday at work.
He has been doing all these things which I believed meant that he was interested in me. I'll list them here: he burns me DVDs, he offered to fix the brakes on my car, he spots me from long distances and then comments on the fact that he saw me but I didn't see him, he spends hours talking to me, he gets slightly jealous when another man talks to me, he makes me feel his muscles, he makes me play softball with him, we had dinner together and he paid. I really could go on and on.
So last week he leaps at the chance to drive me home, I ask him to come upstairs for a drink (hint hint I want sex) and he turns me down. But he gives me his cell phone number and tells me to call him that weekend.
So the next week he drops hints that he wants me to go with him to a play, so I follow up and we make a date. Then this is what really pisses me off. I call him to see if we are still on for going to a play and I leave a message. He never calls me back! I haven't seen him in a week! He never comes to see me in my office anymore, he's just disappeared!
Physically I am not Angelina Jolie but I am not a troll either (I am a commercial model on the weekends). I'm smart, I'm sexy, I'm sassy, I have a fabulous ass Here I am throwing sex at him and he turned me down! What in the world is going on here? I really don't get this one.
Well some of those things you mentioned, not all are what someone would do for you, if they were interested. Now here's the kicker, you never see him anymore he doesn't show up, he flakes out, and suddenly he's disappeared you basically answered your own question. Now think about what you do when you like a guy, and then either you lose interest for whatever reason, or somebody else comes along and sweeps you off your feet. What happens in that situation, he calls you don't answer, you stop calling, you stop responding, you stop going to his work, and when he asks you out on a date you say yes to be nice, and then you flake. And then what happens the guy goes hmmm wonder what I did wrong, why did she just stop talking to me? Like I said you answered your own question, he lost interest.
Well it might that the proposal of sex might have been a little too early. The male that you speak of might just simply need some quality time spent in your house before having sex. Therefore, just simply invite him several times to your house without the proposal of sex and let him make the first move. Many times males just want to be the one to institute the act of sex (males and their need to be in control. :-)
Sometimes it could be a very simple reason like he's been very sick(hospital) or some kind of accident like car crashed, and for the "turn you down" he could be one of them nice guy that never had "entering a woman's house = Sex" mind.
You might have a genuinely nice guy here. Don't think that he turned you down for sex; he may just not be used to going into girl's apartments. Next time (hopefully there is a next time) just grab his arm and drag him into your apartment "for a drink. " Something might have happened to him or his family to cause him to disappear for the week. Call him again and ask him where he has been and say you missed him. You might want to try email too. It is too early now to reach any conclusions.
Well, each guy's behavior may mean something different, so it's hard to generalize. But, there are some guys out there who really just enjoy the thrill of the chase more than anything. These types of guys lose interest once they actually achieve the end result.
That being said, this guy seems far too into you for this to be the case. Maybe this week is an anomaly, and he's just been super busy or out of town? It seems odd that he would be so hot and then suddenly so cold. Have you tried calling him again? (No need to be frantic and call all the time, but a follow up call may be worthwhile).
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