I don't think it is the man's job--I just find that men will think you are desperate if you approach them. I was once real shy, but I soon opened up and decided to make some moves of my own. Men were often surprised, some of them shocked or flattered--then there wee those who actually asked people if I was "hard up on dates. " It is just socially accepted that guys ask women out--All I can say is if a girl does ask you, be polite even if you turn her down ( to show women how to do it with class) and and try not to act like she is being desperate, Ho and maybe women will do it more.
I agree totally. I know how hard it is for me to approach someone. I would be flattered if I was approached and very gentle if not interested. I have run across so many woman that were harsh it's not funny. There's no need to be a jerk, guy or gal. - 4 months ago
Yeah, I think that both guys and girls sometimes have a hard time asking someone out, so if we do, I agree that either the woman or guy who is being asked out should be respectful - no matter what! - 2 months ago
I think its sweet when a guy does, but in today's society so many girls approach the guys first. I always do. Its not the man's job, but if you want to, whether its the guy or the girl, just go for it. Don't ever expect them to first. They'll like you more in the end. But don't be incredibly freakish when you approach them, of course. =]
I think most of the time it is the man's job. I accept that things are changing these days and this isn't necessarily always the case. But in general, it is more of the man's job. I'm not saying this is right by any means but, I guess that's just the way it goes. It's a old school way of thinking but, that frame of mind is still around.
For me, I am shy so having the guy approach is always nice. But hey, if a girl is more outgoing then I say go for it. It really doesn't make a difference. It's really more about the comfort level of the individuals.
I don't think its the mans job to approach a woman. But it does make it easier on a girl. I personally can't approach a guy but I think its cool if a girl has the guts to do it. I wish I could. Lol
I think some women expect that and are disappointed if we don't! But, I think a lot of guys, myself included, appreciate it when a girl is able to be confident in herself enough to pursue a guy!
Yes! In my personal opinion I don't like women to approach me. It DEFINITELY makes it easier on the guys, but when a girl chases me I feel like there is nothing to work for. As males we are built and created to be the chasers/pursuers. The chase is what makes everything exciting to us. If a girl puts herself out there to fast to chase me, then I will not as interested in her. I feel like a true lady who knows her worth shouldn't have to chase a guy.
I think it truly doesn't matter who does the approaching. I personally find it attractive when women just go for it. I think it shows a lot and tells you they are definitely into you which is great.
It doesn't really matter, but to approach a man as a woman it's just as hard as a man approach a woman(hope it make sense lol) so as a guy we just need to man up and approach them, after all if we don't make the move first it's our lost because most woman don't approach a man.
I wish it was the woman who approached the man. Nowadays I can't tell who is taken and who isn't looking. But of course I still think it's the man that should chase the woman.
Generally speaking it's the man's job to approach. Doesn't mean a woman can't or shouldn't do it, but the way our culture is established and reinforced men are usually the ones that have to take the first step.
A note to the women reading this: make yourselves approachable. Men have to overcome approach anxiety, fear of rejection, and raw nervousness to walk over and say hi. You can make our jobs a lot easier by projecting a positive vibe by smiling, looking about the room, having good posture, and not standing in a circle blocking people out from approaching.
If you've ever wondered why rarely any quality guys hit on you in bars that's because of the position, body language, and vibe you have when you're standing there. Make yourselves appear open to talking to men and more guys will do just that. Instead most women tell me all they get hit on is by the overaggressive and/or drunk deuchbag players and they're tired of that. Well, that's what happens when only those guys feel comfortable approaching you! Make it a little easier and things will change for the better. Trust me!
I'm multiracial (white, black, native american - though people have asked me if I'm hispanic, middle eastern, etc) and I would say 9 out of 10 guys...
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I was brought up in an old-fashioned way and I think the guy should always ask the girl out and the guy should pursue the girl. I think that if a guy...
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