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How do you stay happy when it seems impossible?

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code-46523 (Age:18 to 24)     When: 4 months ago
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I am known around my school for always being happy, weather I truly am or not. I don't know if its obvious or not but lately I haven't been terribly happy. All my friends have been getting great things in life lately, and I am completely happy for them, but like absolutely nothing good at all has happened in my life. Its not just about getting things, but about how I've been losing a lot of my friends and just being distanced from people. I feel like my head is the only place where I'm happy now, where reality doesn't matter.

Usually music, writing, or drawing makes me happy, but they haven't this time. Well I guess what I'm asking is, has this happened to anyone else? And if so how did you get through it?

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Methos0918483
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Methos0918483 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
Yeah try losing a family member and suffering
over it for the last years.

No girl treats me decently either
but they will use me for
what they can get.

How old are you and are you a girl?

You have a long time to find your happiness
actually kiddo.
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BringerofDawn That's kind of creepy and rather depressing. How did you get over the loss of your family member? Perhaps that might help. - 4 months ago
Answerer Actually I am not getting over it.

4 years later I am drugged and have to go to grief
counseling. - 4 months ago
 

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JenH (Age:30 to 35)      When: 4 months ago
Everyone goes through times in their life when they are not completely happy. For some, it is triggered by events but for others, it simply "is". You do not need to be happy all the time and, when you aren't, you don't have to pretend that you are.

You're on the right track in that you've found things that you enjoy doing (writing, music, etc.). To maintain happiness, the best advice I can give is to continue doing things that you enjoy, be a good, decent person and know in your heart that you'll get through any tough times now and in the future.

Despite your best efforts, however, sometimes you just won't feel good or be happy. If it weren't for these times, you wouldn't recognize and appreciate the opposite. So, don't compound the problem by stressing or worrying that you aren't in a good mood.

If nothing good has happened in your life - can you make something good happen? If not for you, do some good for others.

Depending on what you mean by "losing friends" and "distanced", you may just be getting older and finding different interests than the friends you currently have. You will change, they will change. That is completely normal and part of growing up. Stay true to yourself by doing what you genuinely want to do NOT what your friends, boyfriends, etc. want you to do. Build your own character and then you'll have a stronger foundation for when life REALLY kicks you in the ass...you'll be better prepared to deal with it and stay happy.

I hope that helps,

Jen
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