I told my friend that I really love her. She told me that she wanted to go out with me but her parents wouldn't allow her to date anyone at the time. Now that she can date she does not like me anymore but she knows I still really like her and she doesn't think it will work out and she wants to be good friends.
I can't go 2 minutes everyday without thinking about her and it takes me an hour to actually fall asleep without thinking about her. She likes this guy who lives about 4 hours away who she only gets to see once every 3 months. She told me she doesn't want to hurt me but I'm still hurt and it doesn't go away and I'm not happy at all. Any help for me to do would be great. Thank you :)
This may not work but depending on her personality, it may. Ask her to give you a chance in a very playful, mocking way. When she asks why, or whatever she says to ask you why, say 'you think we may not work, but how will you know if you don't try? Please, insert name here, just please give me a chance?' If she starts to think for a second, say 'please, I really like you.' If she flat out says no... I don't know what to tell you except it's not gonna work.
This is how you learn the ups and downs of a relationship and how you start appreciating the good times. If it wasn't for all these heartaches, you wouldn't know what you wanted out of a relationship. So look at it a bit positively that you are learning from it.
I would suggest that you make notes about your feeling on to a piece of paper. Whether good or bad. What is it about her that you want to be with her? Why does she hurt you despite the fact that you want to be with her? Think about the things she is NOT offering you, even though you are ready to offer her everything.
At times like this when you are blindly in love with someone, noting these feelings, good or bad, can help you realize why you shouldn't be with her and instead should find someone else who has what you are looking for and is ready to give it back to you too. For the falling asleep part, instead of laying there thinking about her for an hour before you actually can fall asleep, I suggest you read a fun book so she is not in your mind and you are happy before you fall asleep. Before too late your eyes will get heavier and you will fall asleep and over time, you won't even think about her before you go to sleep even if you are not reading a book. Good luck
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