I have a friend who keeps on coming to me upset because these guys are using her. She will like them and they will go out on a date or just hang out as friends and they will fool around. Then the guy will tell her that he does not want a relationship. She will be a little hurt but give it a little bit of time and she will be fooling around with him again. Then she will find out that he is dating someone else. Which then she feels like the guy used her and is very upset, for the moment. She keeps on picking these bad guys and getting hurt, in doing so hurting me(i hate it when she is sad). I would never tell her that she is picking the wrong kind of guys because I think there is a lot that she can do to stop it and they are not all bad guys, she just does not stop them from using her. I try telling her that she should not make out with the guy or not go past this point until they are dating but she says she will and then does not because it feels "right" ending in her pain. Any advise?
Honestly you need to buck up and tell your friend she is dating the wrong type of guys. Trust me these guys are talking and your friend is not coming off as a girlfriend material type of girl. Take your friend around a different social scene. Let her meet some nicer guys and tell her to play a little hard to get, at least until she can see their main intent for being interested in her. Honesty with your friends is always the best policy. The more you let her go thinking she is doing right, the more you and her will be in pain over these 'nice guys
Alright first of all, they ARE ALL bad guys if they are treating not only her, but their girlfriend like a possession. Now, I'm not trying to sound like a dick, but tell her to keep her hands to herself and the other way around. When girls give in the first time you meet them, besides kissing, it just lets guys know that they're easy. And easy prey isn't something that a guy wants to hang on to. If he can't respect her wishes to not fool around, then the guy is a dick, and obviously wants nothing to do with her, but wants to do everything with her body. Truth hurts.
It sounds like your friend has some insecurities. I've had experience with guys just using me and I learned from my mistakes. I'd say honestly let her learn from her mistakes. If this means taking a little bit more time away from her then so be it. But still make it known that you have her back.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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