Ladies do you enjoy being abused?

No usually the women stay because they think he will change and be the person who they can see them being. Or they think they don’t deserve any better

It's not as easy as some people may think to just leave. A lot of people would say that if they were in an abusive situation that they would be able to easily get away, but it's always easier to say what you would do when you aren't actually faced with the problem. I'd like to think that if a guy hit me that I'd just hit him right back and leave, but I don't really know what would happen and I'd rather not find out.
I was sexually abused when I was a kid and I haven't told anyone to this day (you'd be the first). I wish it were easier to admit what happened, but it's not. It may seem weird, but I'm kind of ashamed and embarrassed. I sort of feel like I let it happen even though I didn't really understand what was going on and I know it wasn't my fault, but it just makes it that much harder to do something about it. And believe me, there's nothing enjoyable about being abused in any way.

Only women with little to no self-esteem enjoy being abused. They don't value themselves so that's why they allow a man to treat them like that.

Me personally, if you abuse me in anyway I will retaliate and leave. I once dated a guy who subtly put me down, was manipulative, tried to control me, and was verbally abusive. I was young at the time so I didn't know what he was doing for awhile, I didn't realize it was abuse. But one day, he made a comment that I wasn't going to let slide. I told him about his ass and let him know that you don't ever talk to me like that. Needless to say, the relationship was very short and did not last, and last I heard, he has 2 kids with some girl (I pity her! ).

I didn't let it get to the point of physical abuse because I respect myself. I could have let him mentally/emotionally abuse me further, but I have more value on myself than to let someone treat me like that. I would rather be alone than with a guy who treats me like crap.

Even if you have kids you should leave. Actually, that's when it's an even bigger deal to leave. If a female chooses to let some asshole abuse her, that's on her - but when there are children in the mix she has a responsibility to set a good example. Chances are, the guy will either abuse the kids, or the kids will grow up learning that that is a healthy environment. My father didn't abuse my mother so why the hell would I let some guy do it to me?

For me, especially times when I'm really depressed (which has been a while, since I got treatment and counseling), it *has* been nice to get the attention (in this case, it was emotional abuse). Not to have to make decisions, to have someone waiting for me outside of my classes, surprising me places. But that doesn't last very long and then there's the realization of "oh, shit, now this guy knows some of my emotional buttons and knows where I am all the time". So it's definitely not worth it. But that's how I've fallen into it in the past. And then I'll stick with it for a bit while I try to figure out the least disastrous way to get out of it.

Abuse comes from a personality. Those who allow it and those who would kill anyone who tried. I don't know anyone who enjoys being hit, but I do know people who like the end result. Take for instance a boxer, here is a person who devotes his life to an event, something he holds dear to his heart. He knows what will come, he know he may end up with broken bones, black eyes and possibly brain damage, but he participates anyway. Why? The satisfaction of winning. The concur, the event in which he can stand in front of everybody and tell them that he has been through hell, but overcame.

Instead of devoting your life to what a lot of people will call a trivial event (such as boxing), but devoting it entirely to a lover, mate - another human life something as a society we claim is sacred. Not that girls in this situation necessarily think about saying I've been through hell, but the simple fact that she/ and or he could overcome this difficult situation, that he could change, and everything would be better. They don't enjoy it, but endure it.

I won't justify it, I hate abusive relationships- but that's my theory on why people stay in such relationships. The worst part is you can't change a person, they can only change themselves. They need to own the problem to solve - not just live and enabling it, but owning, admitting with their own mouth that their is a problem, and they are willing to change it.

It takes a smoker on average seven times to quit - I think it this is a much harder addition to break.

There are many reason why woman stay! And No woman do not enjoy it! I was with a partner for 1yr and he was more of the physical type, I showed him the door! And if any body put me in that places again, They would come off 2nd best with me!

All I know is that if a guy EVER hit me I would take a butter knife and cut off his manhood in his sleep. Women that stay are not emotionally stable. They have no self confidence. It had all been taken away by the abuser. They are made to feel like they can't do better and they should take what they can get. Usually the woman is cut off from friends and family or is keeping it a secret and can't get the support they need.

I'm not a lady but sometimes this is just like a girl emotionally abuse a guy, like the girl always in bossy mood, always tell her boyfriend to do this do that, its a way of abusing but the guy still say around.

Can't answer physically since a girl hardly physically abuse a guy unless they are in argument or messing around.