I feel like a worthless piece of sh*t. I can't believe what I thought about doing. Ok there was this girl that lives a few houses down from me that was sitting out on her doorstep when I got home last night. I was walking to my house when she called me over. So I went over to see what she wanted. She was just bored and we were talking and then she asked if I smoked weed. I said no and I thought to myself that I needed to end this conversation soon. So I explained to her that I didn't smoke weed anymore and was just about to go home when she asked me if I wanted to come in and have sex. The reason I am mad at myself is that I actually thought about it for a second then I thought about my girlfriend.
So I said that I had to go. With that I just turned around and walked home. I feel terrible now. I can't believe I even thought about cheating on my girlfriend. My girlfriend is amazing. She is beautiful, a straight A student, goes to church every sunday, and loves me. She is also a virgin and is waiting for marriage which I respect. I am glad that she is going out with me and I love her. But she deserves so much better than me. I don't want to break her heart but what happened scarred me. I just thought about it for a brief second but it feels like I did cheat on her. I never want that to happen. My girlfriend deserves somebody better than me. Somebody that won't even think about hurting her. Am I a bad person for what I thought about? Am I a terrible boyfriend? What should I do? Should I tell her about what happened? Please I need advice. What happened really shook me up and has been eating away at my conscious.
Kudos to you! Your girlfriend is lucky to have a guy like you. You are only human and it's easy to get tempted with something like that, but you stayed strong and her turned her down! Stop worrying about it :)
The human flesh is always lusting after all kinds of evil things, weather it be adulterous sex, or something else. You can't control the temptation of a situation you didn't know you would be in. It just happened, and you made the best of it. To stay strong and fight the temptation is all you can do. The temptation reflects the desires of your flesh, but your actions reflect the desires of your heart, which is what really matters.
You're human, you're not perfect. The fact that you 1) Did not give into temptation and (2) feel so bad about it means that you are a great person and a great boyfriend. More girls should date guys like you.
You're kidding, right? You're pretty much an amazing boyfriend, I think, and it's natural for a guy to think about it for a second or two. But you did the right thing - you walked away. :) I really wouldn't worry about it.
WOW! I wish that I knew men like you, the men/boys that I know would have gotten high with her jumped her bones and went on about their business. You did right by your girlfriend and should be very proud of yourself! My hat goes off too you. Got a brother?
Your not a bad person, you did the right thing by not sleeping with that girl. Your a good boy, and she deserved someone like you in her life. - 4 months ago
omg i so wish my boyfriend was like you. obviously you love your girlfriend, and just thinking about doing it w/someone else is not a big deal, as long as you don't keep on thinking over and over again cause that can lead you to cheating. just be yourself obviously you are a good boyfriend.
I don't think you are a bad boyfriend. I actually think you are a really good one. A bad boyfriend would have had sex with her and smoke weed. So just the fact that you are thinking about how good she is, that she deserves a good boyfriend , that you respect her and feel sorry about what you did shows that you are a really good and caring boyfriend! u should talk with your girlfriend when its really bothering you and I don't think she would leave you. Its just kinda natural that guys think that way. But you said NO so you didn't do anything bad at all
So don't worry and you are really a good boyfriend ;)
I would have had sex with the girl personally but that's just me. So what if you thought about it you didn't do it so therefore you didn't do anything bad, but hey if your girlfriend breaks up with you there's always the girl next door.
We're all tempted in life by situations of one kind or another that if followed through wouldn't be right. The fact is that you thought about it and then said "NO" to yourself and left. You realized how lucky you were to have such a wonderful girlfriend, and by this experience you learned something about life and temptations. You responded well and I commend you on that. You have nothing to explain to your girlfriend or feel guilty about. Just use that experience to love her more now. I mean like what guy hasn't looked at a girl or looked at one and thought. Hmmm? But then just left and thought. Naww I'd never to that.
No you're not a bad boyfriend, some random girl ask a guy to have sex is normal for the guy to think about it for a sec, you didn't follow her and have sex so you didn't do anything wrong. From my opinion or at least what I would do is tell your girlfriend what happened, if she's a amazing, beautiful girl she will understand why you want to tell her this, the reason telling her is honest and trust, if she found out what happened(even it's not a big thing) she will be hurt from the lie/hiding of what happened.
Don't know why you're beating yourself up over something that didn't even happen.
So, you thought about it, big deal. That's what temptation is all about. Deciding what to do is the real test of a person. Your decision was to walk away; good choice!
If anything, this proves that you are an excellent boyfriend. It shows that even when your strongest desire was granted freely to you (it doesn't get much more enticing than being offered sex by a girl), you still declined and overcame the desire. Don't beat yourself up that you flinched for a second. That's human and there's no way that you will ever be able to stop yourself from doing that. Instead, you should be proud of yourself that you have the willpower and love your girlfriend enough to walk away from something that you know would be desirable but wouldn't be worth it to you because of risking the relationship. You didn't cheat on her, and it shows that you have excellent character.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 4 months ago
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 4 months ago
