This isn't just for dating, this includes friends as well. I've noticed over the years that, with girls anyways, if I accidentally say something offensive, upset them, say something stupid, or whatever, they just automatically cut me out of their life. This includes blocking of facebook, aim, removing of cell number, etc. They don't say a word about my screw up or their change in attitude towards me, they just do what they can to get rid of our contact. They don't want to talk about the issue at all, they just want to break contact off. They will even do everything in their power to avoid seeing or bumping into me, which is kinda sad that they can't even be cordial with me.
Guys I have known and am friends with, if I say something or do something that upsets them, will generally confront me about the problem and ask why, or at least discuss it with me, or at worst argue and fight with me. Generally we work things out, if we don't I feel like it sucked obviously, but that at least we tried to keep the friendship alive. At least they will be cordial with me after the fact, generally.
I understand that girls are non-confrontational and all, but with the amount that they complain about not having guy friends, you'd think they would work harder in their friendships with guys.
So ladies and gents, especially ladies, care to explain this one?
Woah, Guys are the same way. When a gal meets a guy the conversation seems almost surreal. The conversation is great, lengthy, and meaningful then POOF! They are gone, never respond tro emails nor phone calls.
I think it is people in general. I think people just do not want to invest the time. They see something that has gone wrong or seems to be a red flag and they just decide to bail.
Help me understand the same question about why guys flee without return notice.
Maybe it has to do with how you come off or the conversation is too deep too soon and it makes them uncomfortable. I have no clue as to why, or I wouldn't be posting this question, haha. Although I do believe it makes a difference for same gendered friendships vs opposite gendered friendships. - A month ago
the only way I would cut you off is if you said something that you purposely set out to hurt me if it was in a heat of an argument I would let it go but to be honest I don't think id cut a fella off because that's just immature most things can be worked out I wouldn't avoid talking about the situation I would defiantly want to confront it
Well for me when I get mad at someone (A boy) I would just not talk to him for a few days no more then 2-3 days cause it gives me some time to cool down, cause if I'm mad at you then you probably wouldn't want to be around me for awhile cause I will probably blow up or something. But I would most likely not be mad at someone (A boy) for more then maybe 3 days.
Dude, those kind of girls tend to be annoying, like the chatty popular girls in highschool that excluded "losers" in their eyes. If you know it's that offensive or bad then don't say it, easier said than done but rly, its your relationships not mine. If it rly bugs you that much then move on and find someone else to be friends with.
Ok you must've said something REALLY offensive because not ALL girls I are like that. I know a lot of girls who confront people when there is a problem....especially if its a guy. Ok so some are but honestly, no offense to us girls, do you even wanna be friends with girls like that? I mean it doesn't really matter why we do it....I guess its just in our blood, for those of us that actually do it. Just forget it and move on.
Well, the reason that the girls walk away, is because they feel offended and don't want anything to do with you any more. The fact that they act so childish afterwards simply means that they're really really immature. If they're not going to put in the effort to try and fix the relationship, then there's no bother in being their friend. The reason that us girls walk away is because, it's a girl thing. If we get into fights among our girlfriends, we do pretty much anything to avoid talking to them because we don't want anything to do with them because they were mean to us. It's just a chick thing, I'm afraid. Usually if there is a confrontation, it ends with a cat fight or how you were wrong and how she's right. And even if the fight is over, they're still fighting. You need to get friends that aren't so sensitive to such remarks, or at least ones with spines. That and they need to realize you're a guy. Or you can get into their faces and tell them to grow up. Hope this helped!
If my I had friends where 1 offensive remark destroyed our friendship, the foundation of the friendship probably wasn't built strong enough or at all.
Who cares about these girls or anyone who isn't able to realize people make verbal mistakes and deserve to be able right their wrong assuming these girls are friends and not simply acquaintances as it is not okay to make offensive jokes to people whom you don't know well.
In general, guys are much more crude then women in day to day conversation and jokes but there's no reason to end a friendship over something that stupid.
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I think you should do it, her friends probably told her that you were thinking about asking her out and probably asked her what she would say. So that means she will probably say yes.
(Age:Under 18)
When: 6 months ago
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