I recently had something going with this girl and she was going through a longterm breakup and the guy she was with was a jerk off who hit her and took advantage of her. I did everything I could to take care of her and help her. Last night was her 21st birthday I spent over 1000 dollars on her to make sure she has a great party, she got hammered I drove her home and her ex shows up and threatens me, I leave and when I wake up in the morning I find out he asked her out while she was drunk and half asleep. Sadly she said yes, and in the morning when she's sober its still a yes! She wrote me a letter saying I'm the sweetest guy and how she wanted to be with me, but how do I get knocked out of the picture because of some scumbag that takes advantage of her drunken state. Granted she went out with him for 4 years but being hit and taken advantage of when they were broken up is just stupid. Can anybody justify this behavior?
I think that she may feel like she's not worth having a good guy. The people you surround yourself around are most like a reflection of how you perceive yourself to be. She has low self esteem. She may not thing that she deserves better. It's sad but true! Hopefully she will get out of that rut and find some self confidence. Enough to want more out of life. Good Luck with trying to figure out these females. Lol.
She loves him, regardless of what he did to her, she is always going to think that he can change because she wants him to. You are obviously a very sweet guy, I mean what kind of guy would spend $1000 to make sure a girls birthday is amazing? not very many. You have to convince her that what he is doing and has done is wrong and she has to leave him forever. Don't give up hope. Give her time. You sound like a great guy.
She has issues. Seriously, it's a blessing in disguise. Be glad you didn't end up with that mess. Love is no excuse. Yeah, love makes you do crazy things but it shouldn't make you lose respect for yourself and get degraded.
Wow sorry to hear this it looks like she's still in love with this other guy and love is what makes GIRLS STUPID. And you seem sweet and everything but just cause you thru her a party that cost you (1,000) dosen`t mean she was gonna go out with you money dosen`t buy love. But hey everything happens for a reason maybe god has a better person for you on his way so just chill and move on. Goodluck
No, she obviously has relied on this guy to make her happy for a long time. And yea that's a hard thing to say goodbye to. But if she were smart she would get out. And she will realize that one day. I've actually been in a relationship sort of like that, the guy was physically and verbally abusive. And we dated for about 1 1/2 years before he had the nerve to hit me. But I was smart enough to get out RIGHT then. She is obviously too weak to do what I did. But good luck!
I know you love her and all but I'm sorry she sounds like she just wants attention if she STILL says yes when she's sober UNLESS she's just scarred of him talk to her if she is scarred of him assure her you'll protect her and if you have to go down to him and kick his ass for her she'll love you for it if she's not scarred and just wants to go back out with him then try to change her mind remind her what he did to her and how he asked her out when she was drunk because he knew she would say yes (hes a f***** jerk btw) she is sooo lucky to have a guy that cares enough about her to save her from a man like that try your hardest to make sure she knows that is she continues to stay with him then there's nothing you can do unfortunately you can't make somebody love all you can do is keep trying
Sorry man, but it looks like you were just a rebound guy. Sometimes people go back. If it was that easy for him to win her back she obviously still had feelings for him, so maybe you're better off this way. Sorry about the money. Jeez that sucks.
Like you said "when she's sober its still a yes", her feeling for the guy never ended, until that feeling is gone nothing you can do, when you love someone(almost like obsessed) all you think about is how good that person is, if they do bad things you(her) will forgive them in secs, this is what love is, it blinds you.
She's not stupid, she is in love. Love Blinds us all and blocks out our common sense. When a women has been with a guy for such a long time, it gets harder for her to leave him. Eventually she will realize her mistake, but by the time that happens, you probably would have moved on already.
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