So I work with this guy and we used to talk. We used to rough-house. Slightly. When he liked me we used to be playful. He was always a little rough. But I'd play back with him. Shove him back and stuff. But we'd play a lot,throw stuff at each other. He'd grab my wrist kinda tight to hold me in place. I always thought in the back of my mind it was a little too rough. And he always wanted to play like that. So yeah. Then I also thought myself stupid because it was rumored that he physically abused his wife when he was married. Though his wife was no saint,horrible woman.
So we dated for like a month or two,and it fell off. Different directions,and I felt like a whore. He was still legally married,though they were separated with their own life. He has their child. Full custody. Didn't sit with me,so could never get serious with him. Anyways we aren't even together anymore.
But occasionally he still tries to play with me. He's mean,and we don't talk anymore. But he still tries to rough house with me. Like playfully shove me and stuff. Block me. Almost like a bully. I'll curse him,and he'll like pin me against the wall,telling me to watch what I say to him. Try to talk to me,and tell me he doesn't like that I won't look him in the eye. Playfully knock stuff out my hands and stuff. And of course call me the occasional slut and bitch.
I don't get it. The Supervisor stated he wouldn't get involved because he warned us both not to get involved with each other. Thinks were both pretty much to blame. He's close to us both. I admit I can be a major bitch. I run the place. And he's a dick. No one else would dare to mess with me. But he keeps messing with me. But it's enough that we both verbally abuse each other,why does he feel the need to physically mess with me? What's the difference between rough-housing and abuse? What's the line?
He may still be acting this way because you initially portrayed interest in the same rough-housing he's doing. You have definitely given him the wrong image. You need to tell him you no longer want to rough-house and want to just be casual.
If he continues to rough-house then I think its more like abuse. If even after you ask him to stop he is still abusing you that is seriously not okay and you have to protect yourself. You should go to the supervisor one more time and tell him if he doesn't do something about it you will be forced to take legal action. If the supervisor does nothing I believe he is breaking the law.
If this ever comes to legal action, be sure to go to a real lawyer because I'm not a professional or anything. And remember, he may think you like rough-housing, so make it clear you don't. If it continues, please protect yourself.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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