Have you ever had a friend who steals your thunder?

Man I saw ur picture, you sure have style and personality, so I guess is not that. May be as blygreene down there told u, what is that you want quality or quantity? Maybe you should think about what is that ur looking for, he just wants to get in their pants and WE girls tend to be pretty stupid w/night stands, deep down most of us wish he'll be the one. Do you just wanna have what he has? Or are you looking for THAT one girl?

Yes, I feel you.
my best friend is like that. its even worse now that I have a bf. she is such a people person. when we hang out, she steal my thunder and I totally just sit there.i have no own thing going on( my own style) but hers just overpowers my ways. ive noticed that I have to stopped hanging out with her and him together and actually get to know my boyfriend better.

forget the wingman and go find girls by yourself. if you ever go hang out with him again and yall are talking to some girls, just back of a little and do your own thing. girls like a man of mystery.

In answer to ur comment, A friend told me a story just like urs, and he's a really handsome 25 year old, but he's got this friend who likes to show off the number of girls he can get and he does get more girls because of hi confidence. I'm not saying ur fu**ed up, but here's the deal, and it happenes the same w/girls. There are guys/girls who have that charm, and they might even be really unatractive, but they still get a lot of persons from the opposit sex. On the other hand there is the kind of guy who has the looks, and I'm not saying that you don't, but WE girls really pay attention on how they dress and their confidence, on ur description, it sounded more like if ur talking when you guys go out in look of girls, and there's where that really matters. IF WHAT ur looking for is to get a bigger number of girls, just for like night stands or to have fun for a little while, then I already told you what you need to work on. As lilmiss down there told you I bet ur still got that lightening , what I'm trying to say is that either you work on urself or you stop hanging out w/that guy before he really affects ur self esteem.

Yes I've dealt with this situation before. When someone steals your thunder, you still have your lightening! You said that he doesn't try and you do. Maybe you should just focus on having fun and not try so hard. Girls will be drawn to that. A girl with any kind of common sense can tell when a guy is trying to just pick her up. Those guys come off as trying too hard and in turn that comes off as creepy and pathetic. Not saying you are because I don't know you but just saying that's a possibility. So just be yourself, have fun, and don't try. Let them come to you. When he gets his girls, don't look upset by it, come off as the nice guy that's just there to enjoy himself while his friend is just out to be a man-whore. I can almost guarantee that it will work. Good luck!

Okay yeah. There was this one girl I knew who was like me in a lot of ways except just a little better. I mean it was everything. Looks, sense of humor, brains, and she was even a nicer person. I shrugged it off at first, but after a while I realized that every guy who would normally find me to be his type would like her better. So I ended up not hanging around her if I was interested in finding someone. She was a great girl, but I just couldn't compete and it was driving me crazy.

Your friend may attract many girls but ask yourself are these girls who you really want to be with? Quality over quantity!

If you are not concerned about quality and just out to sow more oats, suggest going to a different hang out spot that is outside of your normal element. Perhaps there you may just find females that suit you.

Don't predict the night events before you walk out with said friend else you set yourself up for a disappoint. Don't give this friend the responsibility of "wingman" for clearly you both have different definitions of what they are. I'm not saying that its kosher he leaves you "hangin" but I would rather be left "hangin" than a third wheel! If your left "hangin" take the opportunity to meet females without your friend thrown into the mix! Do hang out with this friend if your relationship is more than just making the rounds at night. You don't have to go to a club or a bar/lounge to "hang out".

Although most of my friends are guys, I do know that girls definitely pick up on that "too much effort" vibe. It's not the same by saying effort is opening the car door for a woman, letting a girl walk out of the elevator first. Its the feeling of tension. I don't know. Don't try so hard for it has only shown to yourself it wastes your time. Relax! Going out at night should be fun, If a guy tries too hard I question his motives.

Well that has never happened to me, but there are some guys that just have that i-don't-know-what, and all girls go after 'em. Probably I'm the worst person to answer ur question since I like the other kind of guys, the one who I know not all girls are chasing. But don't feel bad, I bet you got ur thing and just hang out with other kind of guys or change ur style to a more Casanova-Don Juan, which I can imagine ur friend looks like.

Stand up be a man, don't blame your fd for stealing your glory. Work on what you have. Improve your game. So to speak. Envy is for boys jealous is for bitches.


have your own style. Be confident,

"Do you know what women find the most interesting about a man? His interest in her."

i just give you the key of life.

Good luck Jr.