I threw a sleepover party about a month ago. I pretended to be asleep to see if my friends would say anything about me. Well, they unfortunately did and started planning a party for one of our friends behind my back. I told them the next day that I heard what they said and they didn't respond. Then they actually threw the party. I asked one of my best friends when it was. She said it was Friday and I said ok good because I'm busy Saturday. Well one of the other "hosts" of the party told me it was changed to Saturday because the person they were throwing it for was busy Friday. So I ended up not going. But I found out later that she lied to me and the party really was on Friday. She did this because she didn't want me to go. She threatened for my other close friends not to tell me. Even though they really wanted me to go. Some of my friends' moms even asked why I wasn't there. So the one girl that lied to me doesn't know that I know that she lied to me. And I don't knwo what to do. These are my closest friends and I just can't stop hanging out with them. I also found out that she was saying stuff behind my back. Do you have any advice? I really need help. Thanks.
I know exactly how you feel. When I was in middle school/high school, I hung around with the same group of friends forever. I could tell that they preferred being around each other to me, and would hear about get togethers they'd had and hadn't invited me to. It hurt my feelings really badly, but I felt locked into the friendship because they were all I'd had for YEARS! But finally, their actions made me feel so bad about myself that I cut the cord and dropped them.
And you know what? There are more people out there, ones you would never expect to be your new best friends. I'm in college now and my best friend is a girl from home that I never really hung out with before. You don't need fake girls who are probably jealous of you for being cooler than them. Don't waste your time on them, you'll only regret it later.
DUMP THEM!!!!!! you don't need your friends...those aren't your real friends at all. Best friends NEVER talk behind your back. You will regret it later, I suggest you stop hanging out with your bogus/bullshitting friends. Sorry for saying that, but there aren't real friends in this world any longer let me tell you that! The only real friend you have is you and yourself.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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