He told a woman at work that I was ugly and stuck up, but he never took the time to get to know me. Why is this guy so hateful to me, but stares at me a lot.
It could be that this guy is lashing out at you because you don't give him as much attention as he thinks you should be giving him, especially when you say that he gets you things at work and other small things. he obviously likes you but is having a hard time as he doesn't know how to ask you or approach the situation. maybe he doesn't feel comfortable going out with someone at work and is annoyed that he's attracted to you. maybe he thinks that the only way for him to get rid of this attraction towards you is to visualize you as someone he detests and loathes. I know, it's very immature and you've done nothing wrong. if I were you, just avoid him as much as possible and don't let him do you little favours at work. just avoid him altogether, like if you need to take the long way to get to the bathroom and it passes through his desk, I'd take the long way. hopefully by doing things like this, he'll catch on that you're avoiding him. if however, his actions escalate then you should go and speak to the Human Resources department and talk to them about it. It's called harassment at work. Hopefully it doesn't go that far, but just in case, I'd try to nip it in the bud.
If all he is doing is being mean/hateful towards you then he could just be staring at you because he dislikes you so much. I would definitely not interpret his staring as any sense of him being attracted to you. Just as humans are prone to not be able to turn away from the things they enjoy, they too are unable to turn away from those things that they dislike. It could be something else, but from him only staring I would not be lead to any other conclusion.
Thank you for your answer,but I am still confuse, because I wasn't able to finish write what else I wanted to say about the guy being mean to me at work. Sometimes he will run and get things for me or if I drop something on the floor he will pick it up for me. So if he really didn't like me then why does he be nice to me one minute then me the next, plus I catch him cutting his eyes at me when ever I walk by him, or if I am working and look up I catch him staring at me. - 6 months ago
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Well considering that you are in the 25-29 age range the guy sounds wildly immature if he is in that range as well. Maybe he does those things just because he has a kind soul and doesn't view you as an enemy even though he doesn't like you. Or perhaps he is simply a silly child who displays his affections by talking all kinds of crazy nonsense. - 6 months ago