I'm driving men away, what is wrong with me?

I don't know you from Adam, but you sound like you are a little desperate. It sounds like you already have a list made up in your head (you might even have written it down at some point in the past) of the exact type of guy you are looking for. Once you have an interest in someone, you start to grill them on your "list". Nothing really wrong with this, it just can come out the wrong way and start to feel like you are giving him the third degree, which smells like someone on a mission to find a "perfect" man, which can be a real turn off - especially if the relationship is new. 3 weeks is and should be considered "new" if the person you are interested in could/would be you potential life-mate. Take your time - there is plenty of it (your profile says you are 25-29). Take your list and remove all the knit-picky stuff and try to keep your search simple....Does he have a good, steady job or potential for one in the future? Does he treat his Mom/you/women in general with respect? Is he honest about himself and his feelings? Does he want/like kids? Etc. Etc. Etc. But most of all, do you get along with him? If you find someone that fits these, the rest of your list could probably laid to rest, as the rest should be and is insignificant. If not, than you are too picky and will disappointed in life. Good luck to you.