Could you ever be with someone who wasn't willing to "change" for you?

I would never want to change a person I love and no I am not just saying that. If I changed someone just because something doesn't seem right to me..thats not doing justice to anyone. The whole idea of "will you change for me?" just shows that I don't respect the other person's differences and that's just a down low on my side. Plus, if you really love someone.. it should be for EVERYTHING they are..good or bad. I get past the bad and look for the good.. that's just me. I wouldn't want a guy to change me for his own pleasure or satisfaction..and I' feel like maybe I am not worth being the person I am... so knowing how I feel... why would I want another person to feel low?

So to answer your question... you should accept them for everything they are and yes I'd be with someone who wouldn't wanna change themselves for me (even though I don't want them to)... I'll just have that much more respect and appreciation for that person.

Well, someone who "changes" for someone else could easily just be lying through the entire relationship.. then be the person who divorces your or leaves you at the altar after dating for 5 years.

I'd rather someone I date be who they are the whole time, that way we both know if we were meant to be together. Someone who misrepresents themselves is just wasting the time of two lives.

There is a difference between change and compromise, though. I think every couple could do well with compromising when the differences are trivial enough they can live with each other happily a majority of the time. I wouldn't mind someone compromising with me.

Change yes, but how long??

i think accept who they are is a better solution.

I really don't think I could be with someone who says "I'll change for you".

First of all, I couldn't ask someone I cared about to do that. They'd be changing who they are and who they are happy being for me. That's a lot of pressure. I'd feel obligated to stay with that person for the rest of my life because of it. If I really cared about the person I wouldn't ask them to do that and if the person had any respect for themselves AND me, they wouldn't do it for me. If someone changed for me, they would be changing the person that I fell for. The person that I grew to love. I wouldn't want that. And if he didn't like the person he changed into, then he would be unhappy. I don't want to be the cause of someone's unhappiness in a relationship, even though I know it will happen.

I'm a strong believer in not changing for anyone. You are who you are. If people don't like that, then too bad for them. I'm not going to change my beliefs and opinions for another person and no person should do that for me. You should accept a person for who they are - the whole package, flaws and all. After all, flaws make a person beautiful.