How jealous is normal?

It helps if you change your outlook on things. I'm extremely insecure and certain things trigger jealousy. It's normal and everyone experiences it, however I've gone through a lot of heartache due to my insecurities. I want things to work with my boyfriend, as I'm sure you do with yours. Maybe instead of thinking,"Gosh these girls are all flirting with him, how can I compete?", think to yourself,"Wow I'm such a lucky girl, he has all these girls that want him and he's all mine!" It takes some time and some training yourself. Every time you get that knot in your stomach, tell that to yourself until that feeling goes away, while taking slow and deep breaths. It's been a little over a year and it's just starting to work for me lol. This is going to sound really silly, but think of him as the cutest purse in the world and you're the only one that has it. A bunch of girls will want it and compliment it, and it would make you feel flattered because they can't get your purse anywhere. They may find some close replicas, but the one you have is all your own. And you should talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel because he should be understanding and may compromise with you on this. The longer you bottle it up inside, the worse it's going to get. For example, my boyfriend had a habit of breaking his neck to look at every ass that walked by. I felt hurt and offended so I talked to him about it. Now he just does quick glances and I don't mind as much because I see he's making an effort to respect me. And if the quick glance happens to bother me, I'll squeeze his hand and be like,"Baby, I love you." The key is to talk to him and not tell him,"No, you can't do this or I don't want you to do that" You want to open up to him and have him respect your feelings and he won't do that if he's ordered to not do something. So word choice is very important. Good luck!

It is normal to be a little bit jealous, but jealousy comes from being insecure, do you feel as if you could lose him? cause you did say you trusted him. But to answer your question, a little bit of jealousy is natural, and things such as other girls flirting with him is a reasonable reason I'd say for being jealous, but the point of where you not wanting other girls to be "too into" him that maybe be a bit overboard, but I guess it can depend on the scenario.

I think it's normal to feel a flash of jealousy at a mention of the ex. If it's for something like the spatula, it isn't normal to obsess about it or act differently.

the jealousy of random girls he doesn't have any past with might be a little unhealthy. Especially the one he hates. I don't understand that. Still, if it's just a passing thought and not something you act on or obsess about, it probably isn't that bad.

just curious, is this the first guy you've felt strongly about? that can make you feel vulnerable and weak and it ends up coming out as jealousy.