I recently started taking salsa classes, I met this guy whom I felt really attracted to but he's 10 years older than me. NEways.
We hung out outside of class, we went dancing a few times and I took him to my sorority formal, then I found out about a small scale dance competition to which I asked him if he'd be my partner and he said that he would help me out.
At the time I asked him we were both still busy with final exams at the University so we decided that once we were both out we could start looking for a place where we could practice whenever for as long as we wanted, so I started calling around and I found some places and I e-mailed him asking him if he was still interested in helping me out, to which he replied "yeah I'm still interested", then my last e-mail gave him an update of the places that had agreed to let us practice but I was supposed to see him that night in class, so when he didn't replied I didn't make much of it.
Now it's been 3 weeks and I have not heard from him and he's stopped going to class obviously he is not interested in it anymore but how do act? I mean I'm def. not happy about the fact that he let me go through all of that for almost a month and that I turned down a potential partner because he said he'd help out.
Also, one night at the studio's dance party he introduced me to a "FRIEND", who wasn't too appreciative of me dancing with him (so I restrained from dancing with him as much I could) and later when they left, she didn't even come to say bye, she stood by the door while he said bye.
So, how do I act, obviously I'm not going to throw a tantrum at him, I have no reason to ask for his reasons (i.e if he's no interested, that's the bottom line, I don't need explanations), but I'm really pissed and I don't want to make a scene,
Being led on is definitely painful. If you happen to run across this guy, or the girl again, I'd casually ask, "Hey, what happened, we had everything set up and he just up and disappears." I've had this happen to me so I'm familiar to the feeling, it really is infuriating and upsetting. I hate it. If someone doesn't want to see you anymore they should have the courage to tell you so, not just cut off contact.
Try and hold back from starting World War 3 if you do come across one of them again. It's okay to be angry, it's okay to be hurt, so don't worry about that. Be angry, just don't start a fight.
Agree!, I hate that being older than me, he has to cut off contact like if I were to cling to his leg and never let go of him!, all I needed was "I am sorry I can't help anymore" or "I am sorry, I am not interested/I am too tired" whatever, but completely cut contact? what is he? 15?, to make things worse now everyone in class keeps asking me about him - 6 months ago
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Glad to hear you're more angry about this that sad :)
He better have a damn good explanation for this if you ever do see him again. - 6 months ago
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