Why is he acting this way?

Seven years olds don't have the wiring in their brains for these types of boundaries yet. It's all fun and games to them and overhanded lectures and adult logic will not work until they're a little bit older. The only thing you can do is tell him over and over a hundred or a thousand times he's normal to have the feelings he has but that private parts should stay private. Be sure to tell him he's normal to have these thoughts or he may build in a fundamental guilt complex that could sabotage his feelings that affect him for a lifetime. There could be significant other circumstances beyond what you've told us here that contribute to this kind of acting out and a certified therapist may be appropriate if the behavior continues or escalates. It's not easy being a single mom of a young boy and I'm proud of you for doing your best.

I don't think his behavior is that abnormal.

1st I think you should explain to him the difference between him and the other gender.
Which he probably understands already.
Let him know how to be a gentleman.
Also letting him know that it makes you very upset for him to act like that. Could cause him to reform.

2nd I don't know how you feel about discipline, but he needs to know that you will punish him for acts of extreme foolishness.
I believe a few good butt-whippings will put him right in place.

You mention that your raising him in church, well the Bible says, Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15


Proverbs 29:17, Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul
Proverbs 29:15, The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Proverbs 13:24, He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him early.

I did notice how all of the scriptures came from Proverbs, I believe its the book of wisdom.
I really hope this helps you.


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

Kids do weird stuff like this all the time. It sounds weirder than it is. I'm a psychology student and I read a book called "The Secret Lives of Girls". Way worse things happen than what your son did. There were normal kids in the book who happened to even have sex with each other (and sometimes with relatives)! Completely weird, but they ended up as normal kids. Kids, especially ones as young as your son, don't understand how out-of-line these actions are, and they love making other people laugh, even if it means flashing people. As a matter of fact I know a grown man, who is perfectly normal, but when he was about four, he pulled down a girl's pants and inspected her butt in front of all the world to see. Now he's happily married, living a normal Christian life. Kids do weird stuff. If you explain to him that what he's doing is harmful to other people, instead of just "wrong", that might help. Tell him it hurts other people when he does these things. Tell him there is a difference between the "private world" and "public world". Naked is a private thing, not a shameful thing. It's important not to give him any guilt feelings about his body. I suggest also talking to a psychologist (I only took one psychology course, and have been in therapy for 10 years, but am not licensed AT ALL!)

Kids are pretty crazy sometimes! But you have to set boundaries.

Its good that you told him not to let others infleuence him, but try to find what is different about him.
Does he have a father in his life?
He's in grade 1, is he still nervous about school?
Have you recently moved to a new city?

As for to stop the behavior:
make him wear a belt? that way an adult will maybe see him start to do this behavior and can stop it.
explain to him that this stuff/parts are private and no one is allowed to see them.

tell him the consequences of his actions.
take away a toy for a week if he does these bad actions.

you can't have your cute little boy embarassing himself or you!

Hope this helps!

i think its kinda normal that kids are doing that. don't worry, your son is not the only one!
kids try to find out how far they can go. so they are testing it out.
u should ask him why he is doing it and talk to him about it. also you should try to explain him why he shouldn't do it.
make him understand why its bad to do it.

if that doesn't help you should talk with his teacher and find a little punishment ( not a tooo bad one, more like he is not allowed to go outside in the next school break). or each time he does it he is not allowed to watch tv in that day.

but only punish him for a day. when you take away something he likes for a longer time then after a while he doesn't care anymore.

i hope I could help you

My son is also 7yrs old but he is a great kid at school listens etc. he is a really sweet boy even at home, but there are time he will pull his pants down to show his butt but never his privet and he has never touched a girl there before. But I will say it normal for him to act like this, my daughter who is 6 is worse pretty much what your son does, but you just have to sit him down and tell him that this stuff he shouldn't be doing its not ok to do. My daughter went to counseling for this and she is so much better, she taught her right from wrong witch she already new but re-freshing isn't a bad idea. Get some book about touching there and how its not good, umm having him draw on paper telling you how he feels about this and that or his day. This is everything the women did with my daughter and it has helped a lot. so you can give it a shot,

1.He doesn't have friends at school, he's trying to get attention by acting like the popular ones in his class. He's trying to fit in. Advice him to do it in a diff. Way.

2.He might be looking for a father figure to discipline him.

3.without a father affects him in diff. ways.

4.he needs a guy someone older than him or his age to be with. to do "BOYS STUFF" not "MENS STUFF" let him play. give him something he could hold on to, a toy that could be cool to the kids in school or around him so he could have something to brag about to the popular ones or something to keep him busy.something he'll enjoy playing with.

5.act like a father. being a single mom is tough you should be able to be a mom,dad,best friend,brother and everything he needs,. become a boy to him.