For some reason I can only be most open with girls is if I am talking to them though the computer on aim or myspace that kind of thing. But when every I am around that same person, in person its totally different. why is that?
Computers are easy. You can analyze what you're saying, see what you're typing and check if what you're saying sounds stupid before you send it to them. You have longer to think of a witty or clever response which will keep the conversation going. Nobody can see your blushes or nerves. It's a confidence thing, but I think its the same for a lot of people. When you're actually around that person there's nothing to hide behind, they can see everything that's happening on your face - when you smile, when you blush, when you laugh . and it can be uncomfortable. Talking online can help though - if you do it for long enough - when you meet a person face to face you will have already established some ground. Try to bring up some of the things you have talked about on aim or myspace and remember that it's still the same person.
It's a bit funny that you say that because I have the complete opposite problem. I find talking to someone in person is a hundred times easier than talking online. More often than not I get misunderstood when I chat online. - 6 months ago
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Yeah, I often get misunderstood - but not the whole, I find it easier. In real, it often takes me longer to think what to say - or more often than not I open my mouth without thinking what I'm saying. Online I find that I can check what I'm saying and make sure it's not offensive or whatever. But each to their own I suppose. - 6 months ago
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I think you also have to keep in mind that there are some people that act different online than they do irl. I have friends I've known for years irl, but when I chat with them online I can hardly believe I'm talking to the same person. With their mannerisms removed they seem completely different.
It's like that for a lot of people. The simplest explanation is that you're shy and uncomfortable talking in person, its sort of a personality trait. When you're on the computer you don't have to see the other person, just the text. You're also alone, in the comfort of your home. This is something you'll just have to learn how to get over. The more time you spend with people in person the easier it will become.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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