If a girl totally does something wrong, like morally ethically wrong, and then someone calls her on it, some girls seem like if they start crying that makes it ok, and really it does because everyone is like 'aww she's crying, poor thing, be strong girl, be strong,' But if anyone at all treats her the same while she's crying, like if you just don't think crying makes up for what she did, that person is a total jerk, no matter how right that jerk is or how wrong the crying girl is.
Why is crying like emotional immunity? Why are we all forced to love and respect a girl who cries about how horrible a person she is or if she just cries about something ridiculous only for the attention and sympathy?
Almost every single time a girl cries, I find myself forced to just go along with it and say 'there there' but I hate the girl on the inside for putting me through this.
But you can't just say hey we all got problems, yours are actually pretty insignificant compared to every single other person in this room, why don't you do something about it and get over it like an adult instead of crying like a child.
You can't even not want to deal with it, if you do anything but completely go through the motions and put up with everything she says for the next full hour, you're automatically a horrible man.
This is especially retarded considering some girls cry specifically for this reason, so they'll get away with everything. Wtf?
I completely get what you're saying and yeah, you're kinda right. BUT. if this girl is so wrong and crying to try to get out of it, why do you care if you come off like a jerk to her for not "caring" when she cries? Especially if pretending to care is going to make you "hate her on the inside" as you say?
I guess my point is that is this is a SPECIFIC girl in your life and you think she's trying to get out of taking responsibility for something by crying, don't play along. Let her think you're a jerk. If she's that manipulative and emotional who needs her?
If this is just a passing observation. well then I guess you need to decide in each circumstance if it really is better to play the game or just stand there and be the jerk. But for the record, a lot of us just cry easily. We cry for about 1000 reasons. We cry when we're sad. Happy. Angry. Confused. Sometimes we literally cry for NO REASON. It's just part of being female. So maybe next time a girl does something really wrong and starts crying when she gets called on it, why not just stay calm and tell her that you're sorry she's crying and you're not trying to be a jerk but it still doesn't change the fact that what she did was wrong and why you think so. And if she starts apologizing and it's a behavior this girl does a lot (whatever she did that was wrong), I would probably ask her if she was really sorry for what she did or just sorry she got called on it. Because if she was truly sorry she'd make an honest effort to stop the "wrong" behavior altogether.
But then I tend to be one of those people who looks at things a little differently, isn't afraid to say what's on my mind even if it makes people mad, etc.
Also. is it crying in general you have a problem with or just in this sort of circumstance? If it's crying in general, I would recommend dealing with that because we females DO cry a lot and believe it or not there may come a day when you really care for or even love a girl a lot and she cries for a good reason and gets pissed at you because you behave like a jerk when she does. I went through this with my husband for YEARS. He would never react when I cried, even when he had NOTHING to do with my crying. Like when my mom did something really messed up to upset me and I started crying and he just stood there! I wanted to punch him in the face after that and before I started crying I was totally fine with him!
Hmm I suppose I do have a slight problem with crying in general, since I always think getting over stuff and working to make things better is the best way to deal with problems, so crying always seemed like a waste of time to me. I do totally understand not everyone is like this though, some people need that emotional release before they can begin to pick themselves up, so it's not that which lead me to hating this BS girls pull. It's the fact that it's total BS and I shouldn't have to put up - 6 months ago
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I know a lot of guys think it's an excuse, but it really is the hormones. Often we can't do squat about it. Some cry more than others and some cry for different reasons. I don't cry for myself much. Like "boo hoo poor me". I cry for others like CRAZY though. Sad stories do it sometimes, more if they are true. Like some random movie is less likely to do it. The other night I was reading a war book and at the end they were talking about the people they lost and that got me crying. I'm goofy, no? - 6 months ago
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I also hate seeing other people in pain. Mostly emotional pain. If someone else is crying, I'm likely to start too if they are genuinely upset. Even if they aren't actually crying, I'm likely to start. Broken hearts, death of someone they care about, etc. - 6 months ago
Lol I have a friend like this. NO MATTER what she does ( and I can honestly say most of the time she's in the wrong) as soon as she lets go of the ''water works'' people melt , their hearts just pour. It's nothing I despise , but it bothers me to a certain degree at one point do you stop and think its all a sham ? People don't think. Its said odd as soon as you get ready to tell her what she needs to hear she'll cry . OOO. .And it doesn't stop there , there are no limit's to when her tears will show up. She's acting bitchy and you tell her . . She'll argue with you and then cry. I also have a co-worker like this and HONESTLY it makes me SICK. With my co-worker I always get the sense that she's playing on everyone's intelligence. She's always right and your always wrong. Some call it being a''cry baby'' , I call it being too ''attention starved''.
I didn't realize that you did. It's not that serious. If she did something that was wrong and cries about it, you don't have to act like she's an angel. I wouldn't. In what situations do you even have to do that?
Well not every girl, and many girls have good legitimate reasons to cry, but I know what you're talking about. Society has given women some special power so they never get in trouble for slapping a guy (even if the guy hasn't done something wrong), and how crying is like a get out of jail free card and an automatic sympathy card. You're right, some women don't deserve sympathy, period.
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