Am I messing up my relationship?

It's perfectly normal, all guys get jealous at some point and if they say that they don't then they are lying or they are not really invested in the relationship. Do you know why the girls from past relationships cheated on you? I mean, girls aren't really attracted to jealousy when it's too prevalent, they feel smothered and sometimes cheating is their way out of the relationship.

Guys are naturally jealous, it's in our DNA, if we have something we want to protect it. Not trying to sound as though men think of women as objects, but that's honestly part of it in every relationship no matter how strong our feelings are towards our significant other. Girls are the exact same way, how often have you heard of a girl refer to her boyfriend as 'my man' or something along those lines? No matter how hard they try to deny it, everyone just has to accept it, that humans are materialistic in nature.

Anyways, tangent accomplished? My advice would be to calm down, you should be able to gauge her level of commitment by how she acts when she sees you. If you can't, then show up unexpectedly one weekend as a 'surprise' and see what happens. Trust me, being overly concerned and smothering her is definitely not the route you want to take. Suggesting that you feel 'betrayed' sounds like you're being too obsessive, restrictive, needy, over-protective.a bunch of bad things that girls often HATE.

I think the more involved you get with someone and the more feeling you develop for someone the more stressful it is and you start to have jealous feelings. There is nothing wrong with you and It happens to the best of us. Having been in previous relationships were your girlfriend's have cheated puts your mind perspective in a different place.Thats just the way it is. The distance thing makes all those feelings real too. If you really want your relationship to work you have to let all those feelings go. When chicks go out they go out to chill and have a good time just like guys.Doesn't mean they are doing anything or are up to anything.I'm sure you kick it with your friends and have fun. You have to let go of what other chicks have did to you and not assume that your present one will do the same because if you don't you might lose something great and have regrets. Enjoy the time you do spend with her and enjoy time away from each other .Don't have crazy feelings about something that might not be there and just go with the flow.Everything meant to be will be.I wish lots of luck and I hope I've helped a little bit.

gotta spin it man.

It's your problem, not hers. She is allowed to have a life.

Take this opportunity to hang out with the boys. Drink beer, go to a strip club, eat white castle at 4 in the morning. Hell, flirt. You both are entitled to that.

Take advantage of it. If you love this girl and she loves you, you're going to have to figure out if it's real. Test yourself. Furthermore, don't care that she goes out. Its a simple decision to change your mind.

You gotta play the game. She will (secretly) enjoy that you're jealous a little. Once you're not jealous. She'll fight for your attention. Then you'll see her all the time. Trust me. That's not fun either. Then, if you play your cards right, you'll level out and come to an understanding. Then you'll have kids, and your life will be over. :-P jk.