Why is it that about 85-90% of guys masturbate regularly, but every girl that I talk to has never done it? does it have something to do with some of them still being virgins and don't wanna hurt themselves?
The point is, why do guys do it so much more commonly than girls?
i do it plently. and I don't know why more girls don't. it feels too good
also, the female orgasm is something like 100X more powerful than the male orgasm. you should be very jealous of us.
the other thing is, women have traditionally been told to maintain their chastity. and masturbation is not exactly angel behavior. so. those girls might be lying?
i agree with what the girls said. Most girls don't talk about it and won't admit it, especially when they're younger. I was out of high school before I learned how to do it properly, before then I didn't see why it was such a big deal, and even though id tried it, I would never admit to anyone that I had. (I still don't talk about it, but am much more comfortable talking about it and admitting it, because I understand its just a natural thing and a lot of women do it, just don't talk about it) Girls are still learning about themselves during high school, and if no other girl is talking about it, most girls won't say anything because they don't want to be center of the gossip for something like that. All girls mature and learn these things and its not till they're comfortable about it that they'll actually admit it , no matter how close of friends you are. It is true though its not as a regular thing we do as guys do, because we're just not as sexually driven as guys, we're not in our sexual prime till about 30, while guys are in their sexual prime around 18+.
Because you are in your sexual peak and my guess is most of the girls your age don't know how. When I was younger (in my teens) a male friend told me everyone did it. I actually didn't know a woman could. Now that I am older (and in my sexual prime) I figured it out.
I'm very surprised no one has given the same answer I'm going to give right now, because it seems to be pretty obvious. Unlike guys girl just won't admit it. I have only recently discovered that most of my girlfriends have been doing it for a really long time now (just like me), but we never brought it up before. Girls don't talk about it at all. I guess the reason for being so secretive about it is that we still can not perceive it like a perfectly natural thing to do. We often feel like if we talk about it people will think we're icky and disgusting, and had to get off on our own cause we can't get sex. If a guy asks me if I masturbate I'll never tell him I do, cause that's just something I don't wanna talk about, that's a personal thing, you know. Oh and also masturbating can have nothing to do with being a virgin (I mean if you are a virgin you can still do it without hurting yourself)
Thats what I said we won't admit it its the only answer there is in my opinion because I've been there and denied it - 3 months ago
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They actually don't. Us girls do it too but we don't talk about it because its not socially accepted. If a guy talks about it, no one has a problem with it because they expect guys to do it. If a girl talks about it, it makes us seem dirty. Also, girls are not as visually turned on as guys are. When we see a really hot guy, it doesn't turn us on. It just makes us think wow he's hot, it doesn't make us horny. Some girls also don't masturbate regularly because its a lot of work for a girl. It takes us a lot longer. Sometimes, we might try to get the big o and then give up because it just takes so long and it also takes a lot of energy.
While men in our society are raised to suppress emotions, especially ones that make them appear weak, women are raised to suppress sexual feelings. It is improper for a lady to think about sex, let alone explore her sexuality whether it be on her own or with a partner. Obviously times are changing and social norms along with them but many social stigmas still persist. Many women are just as sexual as men are expected to be but are expected to not give into those urges and definitely not let anyone else know about them. And some men would rather wait till marriage like women are supposed to but feel pressure to be more exhibitionists sexual; talking/bragging about how far they've gotten and with how many girls.
Plus it's a lot more work for girls, and some just don't want to.
This is probably going to sound stupid and I am sure a lot of girls are going to disagree with me, but here is my theory.
Girls are still more or less raised with a certain stigma on sex. We're not supposed to want it. It's something that the guy wants and we're supposed to not want it and only have it when we're in love and blah blah blah. It can get so extreme as to some females looking at sex as an obligation. Something we have to do to keep him happy once we're in a relationship. This is also why so many girls are a lot more hesitant about HAVING sex in the first place. Why so many of us put so much more thought into who we do it with and when we do it and why.
Also, most girls require a lot more to get off than a guy does. This is why a lot of women/girls don't even have orgasms for a long time. If at all. We usually have to work for it. We also usually have to concentrate at least a little. Which is why things like headaches, stress, or other distractions can zap our sex drive. It's not that we don't want it necessarily but we know it's not going to happen (the big O) so why frustrate ourselves?
That doesn't sound dumb at all. makes perfect sense =) but the part I don't like is when you said "We're not supposed to want it. It's something that the guy wants and we're supposed to not want it and only have it when we're in love and blah blah blah." I can tell ya because I'm a guy that WAY too many girls think that dudes just wanna get inside. I;m one of the nice guys that respects you and sex would great! but I'm not expecting it untill you say so. - 3 months ago
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Don't get me wrong, I know that there are plenty of nice guys out there. I even know a guy or 2 that will only have sex with a girl that they care about a lot. But even the "nice guys" are still usually a lot more driven by sex than we are. You said yourself you don't expect it until we say. WE say. Because most of the time the sex isn't going to happen until the girl decides to do it. How often is a guy going to say "I think we should wait, I'm not ready.." ? You're mostly waiting for the ok! - 3 months ago
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I'm pretty sure come a certain age every girl has tried it. But, not every girl does it on a daily bases. Guys think about sex all the time, they look at a woman and go "dang she's sexy" and undress her in their minds. Where girls look at a hot guy and go "wow he's cute" but that's all. We don't picture you guys naked unless you're our boyfriend and we're making out with you like crazy, the thought comes in our minds. Guys do it so much more because you're thinking about sex SO much more. Girls are "cutesy" and we like thinking more about "what can I do to IMPRESS this guy today" "do I look good right now" "how do I want my wedding" guys are more physically comfortable with themselves where girls can talk to a girl about all her emotions with a day of meeting her and tell her all the problems she's having. Physical vs. emotional.
Thats actually a really good answer, but the other things that some of these girls tell me (like about the rest of there body and all that) would make telling me this like saying who's popular at our school. Ya know what I'm sayin here? - 3 months ago
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No not really explain yourself a little better:) but if a girl or guy fills their mind with sex. Watching porn, just anything to encourage it obviously that's going to become one of their desires that may lead to "needs." - 3 months ago
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Lol they tell me things much more complex than if they have masturbated once or twice. if they told me it would just be one more thing that I would know. it wouldn't be a big deal at all and me and my girl-friends are close enough with each other to know that - 3 months ago
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So what's the problem what are you asking? I thought you wanted to know why guys do it so much more than girls? haha - 3 months ago
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Omg you are making this complicated! lol
You said that maybe theyre just hiding it from me and not open about it. If they did it they would tell me. that's what I'm telling you lol. I'm asking why the girls don't do it because I believe them when they say they dont. - 3 months ago
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Girls make things complicated!! Sorry I am one of them! But I'm pretty sure I didn't just say that, read my response again. - 3 months ago
some girls genuinely just aren't interested in it and then most of them just won't admit they do I don't think girls are as open about masturbation as guys and this is why they say they don't you will get the girls who have no problem admitting they do
Yeah but the only reason I asked these girls is because they are my best friend... Put it here: I asked them because there's nothing to hide once you're in the friend zone with them. but I have no problem with the friend zone for these girls so we tell each other everything - 3 months ago
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Maybe its just something there not comfortable admitting to I wasn't when I was younger no matter who asked me - 3 months ago
Because guys at your age tend to be much more strongly driven by hormones. In addition, it is fairly easy for a guy to "discover" masturbation. There is also a strong prohibition against women experiencing pleasure for it's own sake. Some people feel like it's slutty.
What I can tell you is that more educated women are more likely to masturbate. Most women I know sexually do masturbate but most of them tend to be highly intelligent and hold advanced degrees. Could be a sampling error.
the hormone that raises sexual feelings is Testosterone, and since this is the main hormone in guys, it is no wonder that they masturbate more often than girls, who have estrogen. When a guy and girl form a romantic relationship, the testosterone level rises in both the male and the female, causing crazy sexual feelings in both parties.
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