Too early for a baby?

Yes, this is normal for young girls to want to be a mother. It's also a very naive outlook, for two reasons. First, young women don't actually understand the all the implications associated with having a baby. Babies require constant attention and during the time you will have to make significant changes to your lifestyle. You'll be waking up at all hours of the night, you won't be able to focus on your school work, etc.

The biggest thing though are the financial implications. Do you know how long a couple usually discusses the issue of having a child before actually doing it? And even if the pregnancy is unexpected the parents put a lot of time and effort into planning for the birth. The fact is that raising a child costs A LOT of money. Saving away money to provide it food, and clothing, and baby supplies, and safeguarding their house, and setting up a room for it, buying toys. They don't pull this money out of thin air. So where are you going to get it? Are you going to start working? Are you going to ask your parents for help? If you are going to ask your parents for help, ask yourself first if it's fair to them.

I suggest if you really have such feelings you should talk to your mother about it, she'll give you a lot of insight into why now isn't the right time. Also, there are so many mothers out there who did get pregnant at 16 and by the time they hit their 30's, if not sooner they'll all tell you having a baby so early was a mistake. They love their child with all their heart, but just admit that the timing was far too soon and they should have waited.

Finally, there's also a family dynamic. Although it's not necessarily the case that single parents are always not as successful as if both parents were involved, this is the case more often than not. It's mainly due to the two factors I listed, first of the workload can be split among both parents which is a lot more manageable, and couples usually have a steady income stream while single mothers' income is usually more precarious.

Finally, you can't expect your parents to help you, if they wanted to raise another child they'd have one. Putting them in this position where they are forced to take care of your child because you're inexperienced and can't meet all the baby's demands is unfair to them. Believe me when I say this, you will not be able to raise this child by yourself, not at your age.

It is normal for a lot of girls to want to have a baby. But to be honest, just like anything in life, good things are only good in the right context and environment. Sure, giving your love to a child is, and will be amazing. But do you really want to bring a child into this world right now? It costs on average over 6000 dollars a year to raise a baby. That is a lot of money. You also are going to get an average of 4 or 5 hours of sleep at night. Not to mention that, but you can't finish school, you can't go to college, and you're setting yourself up for disaster. You're basically choosing to shoot yourself in the foot, and limit your options in life. Like pointyourtoe said, babysit for a while. That way, you can give some of your love to a child, without having to worry about all the downsides. If you really want to love your child, bringing it into the world with the best odds to make it, is the best thing for it. But if you bring it into the world, living on welfare, being single, and a bunch of different guys coming in and out isn't going to put it on the road to success.

yes it's normal to want to have a baby at your age. thats's how I felt when I was sixteen but then my mother explained that I once I have a baby I can't just give it back when I'm tired of it. and not to mention the fact that she and my dad were going to be staying home watching a baby while I was out having fun. besides that your young you probably want to go out and travel the world and everything because your only young once and you have plenty of time to settle down
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try babysitting.

I had friends in the past want kids in high school. I think they thought it was cute to have a cuddly little baby. Of course they waited because they didn't want to have to deal with the gossip column at school. But after graduating they were the first ones to get prego.

Some people were just meant to be a mother. Just make sure its with a good guy. You should want your child to have a father. Nowadays kids need both there parents to stay sane in this crazy world.

Wait it out.

when I was like 14 for some mental reason I wanted a baby ! but then my mom had a baby it changed my mind totally because its so much work

and now I don't even think I want kids so things change hun

my friend who is 16 recently had a baby boy and she is depressed all she does is cry because she can't do what all her friends are doing.and her family disowned her terrible but they did.


think of all the things you want to do in life you wouldn't be able to do them until 18 years if you had a baby

i want to travel ,get through college,experience new things,meet new people but if I ever had a baby they would all just be dreams so don't have a baby until you have done everything you wanted to do in life and until you can provide a good stable financial life for the baby

so if you do have sex use contraception

i wouldn't advise this at all having relatives and thinking their cute is totally totally different to having your own. I had my first at 19 and was far too young. I've never had nice clothes.money freedom. when all my mates were enjoying life I was stuck at home cooking. cleaning. changing nappies. making bottles. then there's the temper tantrums and crying and always always having to put the child first that means your own needs are never met. by 24 I had a breakdown. my sons have never been on holiday. they get looked down on even by their own so called friends for been single parent kids. you can't buy them the things you would like to you can't take them to the places you would like to. and not all but a lot of men take advantage cause you are a vulnerable lone parent. you are not ready emotionally or mentally. believe me and the kid or kids suffer for it. I have also found that now my kids are grown enough for me to get a bit of life back all my friends now have little kids and never come out. so I'm still stuck in and lonely. my kids have got their own lives now and I barely see them I'm in tons of debt and badly depressed. please wait you have many things to experience in life before this. and blokes will rarely stick around a single parent. trust me there's much much more to life. I love my kids but so wished I'd have waited longer. even now I cannot afford to eat properly. I rarely sleep worrying about bills and every time I meet a bloke which is rare they hurt me and let me down even after all these years things haven't improved and I'm now 36. its taken the best part of my life and scarred me mentally and emotionally for the rest of it

It's normal to want kids but WAIT. They are a tremendous responsibility and I think you need to enjoy life and experience things before you have kids. If you still think you want kids have your little cousins spend a weekend with you. Hopefully that will give you glimpse of the work involved with raising kids. Plus it wouldn't be fair to your baby. You want to have one when you are mature and responsible enough to deal with it.

Its normal for you to feel this way, I wanted a baby at that age too I had my first at 18. Having a baby young buts a lot on you, I wasn't ready even though I thought I was. Once you have a baby its like all your friend go away, and your only friends with people that have kids already, you can't go out and party or get up and just go when you want too. I ended up dropping out my 12th year cause it was to much graduate before you plan a family.

Honey your a female and wanting a baby is a natural feeling but your way to young.

Why don't you post this question.To the girls who have had babies in their teens if you had it to do over again would you have waited until you where older?

I was the second child to a teenage mom.it was no picnic! And yes, my mom loved us and we loved her.but she missed out on HER LIFE!

Honey please set goals, make plans.enjoy your young life.get a career.travel!

I have two daughters and a son. My oldest daughter is 24 and she just passed the bar and she is now a Lawyer.she has been to Italy, France, Portugal.she is loving life.

My 22 year old daughter is a lic. Hair dresser she works in Boston, loves the city life .and she is leaving in two weeks to go on vacation with friends.she is loving life.

My son just graduated high school this year along with his girlfriend and the two of them are off to college in the Fall.

And yes, my kids are normal everyday kids.nothing fancy.they have question lots of things.from babies.to boyfriends.but I taught them to live life to the fullest.never be afraid to pursue your dreams.if you fail at something your not ever a failure.why.because you tried.

It isn't fair to bring an innocent baby into the world and it isn't fair to you to miss out on some of the funnest years of your life.

How about plan the baby.say when I am 25 I hope to be married and having my first child, I would like . and would like the names.you can plan.just don't act on it at such a young age.

When you have a child.you will want to give them every opportunity.

Please, please, please wait! I had my first child when I was 20 and even that was awfully young in my opinion. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything but I do think things would have been LOADS better if I had just waited a little longer. Kids are really cute and it's natural to be around them and want them yourself but it's a whole new ballgame when it's 24/7.

you should try babysitting your young cousins for several hours, all day if possible, get a feel for what it's like to take care of a baby on your own before you go having one of your own. as much as I love babies, I have taken care of enough of them to know that that is not something I am ready for, especially not on my own. basically you should get some experience with babies if you haven't already and see how you feel after that. though over all I think 16 is way too young to have children, especially on your own.

seeing babies always makes a girl wants babies. but you are WAYY to young to get pregnant., you have ur WHOLE life ahead of u. just wait, enjoy ur childhood enjoy ur freedom while you still have it. because you won't b able to do A LOT of things you might want to do if you have a baby