December 06: Gives me a Christmas present. Also gave one to my sister and brother.
March 07: Realized I had a crush on him, but did nothing.
Summer 07: Suffered in silence, trying to will it away.
September 07: Gave in and told him. He admitted to a crush as well.
October 07: Went to a movie with my mom, brother, sister and him. It was a pretty big fail, and I was so nervous I got snappy with him.
Unknown Date: He called just to "talk." I don't do the phone conversation thing very well, so I sort of failed at this. He hasn't called to talk again.
Sweetest Day 07: He invited me to go to a graveyard to see if it was haunted. It seemed like a good idea, so I said yes, and then he acted all paranoid, with a "You're not just agreeing to be nice?"
Unknown Date 07: He came over to show me a neat glitch in Oblivion. It was a nice time, hanging out with him, until I choked on my drink in front of him.
Unknown Date 08: Invited him to go rollerskating with my family, but he had family over, and so said no.
Valentine's Day 08: He invited me to go see a movie. Me, being an idiot, said that I'd go see whatever he wanted to go see. He decided to take a rain-check.
Unknown Date 08 - May 08: He pretty much drops off the face of the Earth, as he's been working, and spends the weekend resting. He's online less and less and his work schedule changes, so I never know when he'll be online.
May 08: He finally comes over again, to play Rock Band. We hang out a little, and he leaves. After all of his absence, I'd thought I was over him, but I realized that I was not.
So, does he exhibit the signs of being shy? Have I just messed up too many times? Was he interested and then lost it? Should I put more effort in? What do you think?
I think that he doesn't know what to make of this crush. Perhaps he thinks that his crush on you would lead to utter disappointment and to a failed relationship and he would rather have a casual friendship rather than a failed romantic relationship.
I will say this though.If both of you knew that you each had a crush on the other person, than you are both to blame for the lack of romantic relationship initiation.
I think you should just be yourself when ya go to the movies and he ask what movie do you want to see say I want to see ( what ever movie you pick that is there) don't say "anything that you want too see" because now he is thinking you agree with him in everything just to be nice. He is not shy at all he is just being him but he is just trying to get to know you better.
How come you haven't made any effort to kiss him - or any kind of move at all? you told him you had a crush on him but it sounds like you didn't follow it up with anything really. Did you call him much? Did you flirt with him? He has invited you to a couple of things so yes it sounds like he was interested. But unless you reacted well to these scenarios and made it clear you'd like to hang out again/ continue seeing him or unless you flirt and make it clear you'd like him to kiss you, then I can understand why he'd be confused. It sounds like you are either nervous around him or aren't very confident.
But yes - I'd say he IS a bit shy by the sounds of it. You probably just need to be a little more confident and flirt with him a little more. And just make him sure you're interested in being more than a friend. - 6 months ago
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