Guy no longer wanting to be friends?

sometimes when a guy is too shy, he will have romantic or sexually charged feelings for a girl, approach her, and then send mixed signals so that he doesn't get his feelings rejected. Most of the time, this puts the guy into the dreaded "friend zone". where it is nearly impossible to get out of without becoming FWB or just leaving the other person.

It sounds like your guy friend got frustrated and in a fit of impatient rage wanted you to become more than friends over night. It sounds like maybe he wanted a relationship from the beginning and got put into the "friend zone" and then went kamikaze on you.

It is not very likely that you will be friends again, until he has found a girlfriend and can reconcile with his feelings that he had for you. it sounds weird, I know, but this is most likely what is going to happen. It is possible for you to be friends again, but he'll either get another gf, or you will have to make the first move. you'll have to show that there are no weird feelings between you and then he will respond, and you can be friends again.

Give this a read:

The "Nice Guy"---and Why He's Not Nice
By Dropit

"Nice," as used in the community, is way different than "nice" as used by women.

When the community uses the term, it is a pejorative. But since to most people it's enjoys a positive connotation, I thought a little more definition would be helpful

The "nice" guy likes a girl. He starts by befriending the girl and denying any romantic interest (he figures: I'll prove I like her as a person, not just a romantic interest), secretly taking note of what she likes, and then giving the "perfect" gift along with a confession of his love.

Poor girl! She thought she had a friend, but now she finds out he was just acting the whole time. Alternatively, she is uncomfortably surprised from this lightning bolt out of a seemingly clear blue sky, and is worried about how to save the friendship without hooking up with the guy, perhaps adding to the rejection the caveat, "You're such a nice guy."

Eventually, she lets him down as easy as she knows how (remember, this is a good, kind girl here), and this guy wonders what he did wrong. He certainly didn't do anything mean; his ears perked up when he heard her complain about guys, and steadfastly worked to avoid doing those things. He figures he's being nice.

The problem is that these guys have a sort of male version of going for commitment too fast. A relationship is a 50-50 venture, but he's gone 90-10, and he's basically trying to pressure her into liking him, claiming (or at least implying) that she "owes" him for all he's done for her. He is trying to force her into liking him, she senses the trap, and she splits.

Then she meets another guy. She regards him as moderately attractive (maybe even LESS attractive than the nice guy), and she figures he'd be worth a date. So they go out, and it's clear that they're on the same page---he had an open Friday night, so, hey, he called her up. Turns out he has a rough edge or two, but nobody has to be perfect. He calls her up for a second date, and again, it's clear to both that this is just a date. She hasn't put that much effort into it, but neither has he. At least he isn't trying to lasso her with guilt.

So when our self-proclaimed "nice" guy meets this new guy and sees that he's not working as hard as the "nice" guy did, yet she's dating HIM, he thinks: "What? I worked so hard for her! I did everything I could! I even watched her favorite show so I could find something to talk about! What's wrong? Why is she dating that jerk?"

The so-called "jerk" isn't really a jerk; he simply isn't as fawning as the "nice" guy. But the labels have been assigned in his head, and so comes the saying, "Nice guys finish last."

Does he just want to sleep with you? I don't know. Guys are pretty motivated by sex, lol. My thoughts on this situation based on the info provided is that he has feelings for you and feels like he can't be your friend because of how he feels.

He told you how he felt (the cuddling thing) and as far as I can tell. no positive response from you.

He takes some time to get over his feelings of rejection and starts trying to be "normal" with you again. Trying to still be friends. Then he realizes that he can't just be your friend so he says no more. But you fight to try to keep him around so he asks you a question.

The shower comment. I didn't take that as him trying to get in your pants per se. It's a hypothetical question designed to see how you feel about him. Your response of "why would I even be there" is like a slamming door, deadbolted fast, that not only are you not interested in him, but probably never will be.

It just seems to me like he's reached the end of his rope with his feelings for you and there isn't anything you can really do about that. Sorry.

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dont ever talk to him again. ]
he's a loser