Why would a guy who likes you, say he wants to be friends, when he knows that the girl likes him back?
I hang out with this guy and we are attracted to each other. He once told me he likes me and knows I like him too. But we're not going out and sometimes he just calls me to say hi and see how me or my family is doing and we hang out like once a month. He complements me a lot that I'm very pretty and introduces me to his friends. We have common interests, like in music. He recorded me once a cd with his favorite songs, love songs and we listened to it in his car. He's not open with his feelings inside, neither am I. One day when he made me mad with some stupid joke, I ran out of his house and he chased me with his car, telling to wait and saying why am I doing this to him? He almost pleased me on his knees to get into his car and talk. He asked if I wanted to go to eat somewhere, he grabbed my hand in his car, apologized and asked me not to do this again to him, because it really pissed him off. He said HE WANTS TO BE FRIENDS, while I lost the guts to say that I want dating. All the way we were in his car he stared at me and tried to make me smile. Now I left my watch in his car, where he could possibly see it and he called me 4 days later to say it, but I didn't even realized how I left it. We were intimate though couple times before.
Update: I'm trying to make him to pursue me. I have brought his ego down couple times, at least did things that would probably put him down. But then again, showed him attention. He is always nice, affectionate&sweet to me.
5 months ago
He may not be ready for a relationship, he may be scared, he may like someone else, dating you may go against his religion or belief system, you may be too young for him, there are millions of possible reasons why.
He could be afraid of hurting you. He may not be looking for a relationship in his life right now. The only way to find out is to ask him.
If he wasn't into me, he wouldn't bother to call me, meet me & tell me how pretty I am, I never do anything to meet him, so then why would he bother? I'm 18 and he's 24. I told him I'm catholic while he's an atheist, but I don't care, I'm not religious myself. We're in this friends with benefits thing, which he calls friends. However I don't understand it, we only meet once a month, but he still calls and asks about me. I'm at the point to decide whether to let it go, I also don't talk much when I'm with, I'm quiet. - 5 months ago
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You might want to ask him if you want to be boyfriend and girlfriend or just remain friends with benefits. - 5 months ago
Hello.it is really hard to hear the "let's just be friends" phrase. I must say my situation has some similarities to yours. I think that if you really have strong feelings for him and really want to be with him, you must tell him, because he can not guess. For all he knows, he may think you are totally cool with just being friends with benefits. Let him know how you feel and give him time and space to sort out his feelings. Let go and just try to occupy yourself. Most of the time, when you pull away the boy just feels compelled to come back. I'm not sure if this is helpful.but basically honesty and communication are essential in any type of relationship. Also if you are cool with just being friends then cool, but if you are not, don't just stick around.find someone who will want to be with you and really love you :)
Well he didn't say let's "just"be friends. He said I want to be friends, after I asked him what do you want from me. And that's what I'm always doing, I never call him, because I want to let go and at the same time I want him to go behind me. When he feels I have completely distanced myself, he comes like a little child, all caring about me. I'm not sure of what I want, because he has done something jerkish in the past and I still can't forgive. I need to completely trust him to open my feelings4him - 5 months ago
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And also it might sound stupid, but I started reading astrology and it did reveal a lot about his personality, so if basing on his sign, it says that it seems like he's messing with my head, while he is just testing the waters. lol but ah, I guess I'll have to take the first step somehow, even that's not what I usually am comfortable to do : / - 5 months ago
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Well first and for most you must learn to forgive. That doesn't mean you have to forget, just let that go cause it is in the past. So technically it doesn't exist anymore :). As for astrology, that is not stupid at all!! My mom, sister and her best friend study astrology. Maybe you can share your sign and his, and I can get back to with some more info. I am a virgo and the guy that I have been on and off with his a sagittarius. It's not a match made in heaven but you can make it work. - 5 months ago
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He's capricorn and I'm pisces :) - 5 months ago
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I ask my sis to look it up and get back to you :) - 5 months ago
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