I met this guy last summer and he is still a great guy. Anyway after of three months of talking, I asked him if we can be more than friend and he said no because it was too sudden. He said he would like to be my friend and I said ok. He were sweet, flirtatious, acts jealous if I am with another guys, give me nickname and attentive like a guy to his girlfriend. Always asked me I am seeing anyone. I can call, text or email him anytime and he would respond back immediately. Finally one day, I tried to call him and he always make a bs excuses that he was busy to talk to me. I asked him if he met a girl and he said yes but he only know for less than two weeks and he already want to be her boyfriend. If I am just his gal friend then why he acts so f**king guilty about it? Did he just used me to relief his loneliness or because he had no one, by using an excuse that we're friend? If he doesn't care about my feeling why would he asks for my forgiveness? Why would bother him so much that I ended friendship with him?
I wish I could ease your pain here, you clearly have a difficult call to make. I can say I do respect the guy based on what you wrote, why? he was up front about being interested in someone else, he could have been a jerk and have you as a Girlfriend on the sly. but I do see his point of view too, I would say he has no "high road" for him to take, any move he makes he ends up the bad guy to someone. if that's the case, then its logical to take the road that causes the least amount of friction. in this case he wants to quietly disappear in the night. I say let him, his loss, and hope the next guy is available fully for you.
Why would he asked me to be his friend in the first place? he could just disappear into the night like you said. Since we're not going to talk to each other again why would he wants my forgiveness? Is it a peace of mind for the guys so that they move on without a guilty conscious? - 5 months ago
He probably did like you last summer but just made a bad call and said "it was too sudden". And from then on he didn't want to admit that it was a mistake. He's now probably in limbo as to whether he should sort of subtly ease into the role of "more than just friends" or move on with this new girl.
There is no limbo in this situation, he wants to move on w this girl. What is my forgiveness going to do for him? Since he wants to disappear quietly like the guy above said why don't be a jerk about it and leave. - 5 months ago
sounds like he does have some feelings for you but that he has more of a "relationship" connection with this other girl. I say step away from the friendship and date.maybe later you guys can meet up and be friends. it bothers him because he knows he hurt you and he feels guilty about it.if he wants to be with the other girl let him. sooner or later if he really liked you he will realize that he lost something great.but by that time you may have found someone better for you emotionally.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 5 months ago
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