Who has more trust issues?

well I have been in both posistions in my past

i have been the cheater and I have been the one getting played I think both to answer ur question

I think people who have been cheated on has a really big issue on trust even later in different relationships. After experiencing their partner cheating on them, it's really hard for them not to imagine or think about what their new partner is doing without them.

People who cheat, I think, wouldn't have a harder time trusting because they feel guilty.

You asked "So have you contemplated cheating yourself? If it's inevitable are you scared or relieved?" I didn't have enough room to just comment back in that little box, so here are your answers.

I have done it myself, once. It was one of the situations where things were all wrong with the one I was with and I grew feelings for someone else. And I never decided I was going to do it before it happened, it just happened. It wasn't right of me and I corrected things after it was done, but I can't take it back and tearing myself up over it isn't going to help me learn and grow from it either.

No, I'm not scared of it, and I'm definitely relieved. I don't WANT it to happen by any means. I just don't set unrealistic expectations that everything is going to be perfect just because we are dating now. I don't encourage cheating but I do understand that sometimes it happens. Everyone deserves a second chance if it truly was an accident and mistake, but more than once means that it probably won't stop and then things need to be ended.

I think both have equal trust issues.

If you have been cheated on, you don't want to be victim ever again if you can help it so, everyone is suspect and not to be trusted for what they MIGHT do.

On the other hand, if you are a cheater, then karma can bite you in the butt and you are worried that you may be getting played too.

I have been both actually and I would say that at one time I had a hard time trusting men because I had been cheated on but was never concerned that I may be getting played too when I was the cheater.

I have been cheated on by every single guy I have ever dated. I truly believe that this is where my trust issues come from. After the first one, I still trusted, and the second one a little, but finally I gave up. My trust factor is out the window. I don't really trust at all anymore, I've actually moved on to understanding. An understanding that it's almost inevitable that cheating is always going to happen. So now when things like that come up, I focus on what was actually done and what I feel the intentions behind it were.

Great questions, I have been cheated on and the cheater so here are my thoughts, I do yes, still have some trust issues, but I have always had trust issues with everything, not just relationships, and I also have never put 100% trust in anyone nor will I, personally I think that is just dumb, but to each his own, anyhow I think the reason in a relationship I do not trust is because I know what one can do when they want to do something, I've done it, where there's a will there's a way so anything is possible with anyone at anytime, I would not say I feel guilty or paranoid towards my partner because of this, I just know what someone could be capable of. As far as my partner cheating on me, it's happened, it sucked and yes I do believe in some way, some small way, it has contributed to my trust issues, but I also learned a thing or to about control at the same time, I learned it's an illusion, control and trust are illusions, to me there's no such things, its not that I don't talk to people, I just don't need or have to share things with people that I do not want anyone else to know, it's that easy, sometimes it would be nice to have a 2nd opinion and all, but when it comes right down to it, I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do regardless of all the advice I get ya know? Hope I helped!

I've been cheated on before.too bad for that idiot the only trust issue I had was with him not my next man. I think people who cheat are afraid their partner is cheating too or tries to say they are to cover up. They believe if they are/was a cheater maybe their partner would be one too. Keyshia Cole said it best in I Shoulda Cheated.