Why is it that every time I find out that someone likes me, I lose all interest? Plus other problems. Thanks!

Maybe you need to relax and perhaps you are scared. It seems that you don't believe in yourself and that is not a good thing. In order for you to find love from a man you need to love yourself a lot more. Do you believe people when they give you compliment? Sometimes a great thing to do is to get help from people who do love you. Family, friends, or counselors. I have my own issues I went through with life and I have seen counselors, so you don't have to ever worry about me judging you. I can give good advice. I think you are scared of falling in love and therefore you lose interest. instead of putting so much pressure, just take it easy. the next time you fall for a guy, give yourself a talk saying I should not get nervous, I should realize that this person is worth my time, and I need to give him a chance because people around me deserve chances. Remember that he thinks enough of you to give you a chance and that will help your perspective a lot. Also start complimenting your looks and other aspects to help you prepare for any nice compliments men can give you. If you get grossed out then realize this. You are calling yourself a gross person and I don't think you ever want to see yourself as gross. Go in this with a positive, healthy attitude and remember to have faith in every circumstance! I hope this helps. :)

If you don't think you're good enough, you won't be good enough. You should just be proud of who you are; confidence goes a long way.

I don't know why you would be grossed-out when someone compliments your looks.

I wish you the best.

Ok so your the type of girl that just build excuses to shield herself from the weakness of being in a relationship. The fact that you don't value yourself enough and think your not good enough well is simple wrong and I get really pissed when girls do that to me. Who the hell care is you don't fit the standards, he is the only one that should and yep he doesnt, any guy that fall for any girl is one that doesn't really love a lot of her but is willing to accept all her problems and view them as qualities. As for you appearance complex you sound like you have a childhood trauma or something that some family members called you ugly or something. Just think about the freaking saying "Love is blind" and stop with the excuses, maybe get help from a professional about your complex. Like I always say, you should never close door before knowing what's behind them.

Sorry but I can't answer your question.

Cause that's pretty much the EXACT same problem that I have. :( Except, I don't get grossed out or angry if someone positively comments on my appearance.

But it sucks, I lose interest and as soon as there is a chance at a relationship. It's FRUSTRATING.

your question made perfect sense to me because I think what you said is exactly how I feel sometimes. I agree with what cool-relax said about a fear of commitment. maybe you don't feel that you're ready for a relationship and that's why you are not interested in guys that are interested in you, even if you were interested in them before you found out they were interested in you. (that was confusing but I hope you know what I meant by that)

i lose interest in the guys I like when they start to talk to me and get to know them a bit better. I think this is because before we speak I don't know anything about them, they are a complete mystery and I can fantasize about them. but once we speak that can't happen anymore because you know more about them. I don't know if this is the same for you.

i don't really like it when people make positive comments about me either but I think that's because I have some trust issues. I tend not to believe it when people say nice things about me.i don't think it has anything to do with me being self conscious about my appearance I just think that people don't mean what they say and usually say things for the sake of saying them. why do you get angry at people when they make positive comments about you? is it because you don't believe them either?

I think you just like the 'image' of love, not the feeling itself, because maybe you don't really know what love is, never experienced it. You are the type of person who wants to be chased and loved by everyone, but not having to return that love to others. That means you're bit too self centered and You live by the thrill of others pursuing you. If you really wanna know what love is like, you need to share yourself with others.
You need to learn how to understand people and to learn to see the beauty of the spiritual world. I have some friends like that, who will go crazy of not knowing whether the guy likes them or no, but bam when they find out that he has given up to her 'intrigues' she doesn't like him anymore.

find out if you have lingering self doubt first before dismissing others' positive feedback. perhaps some females are more self aware; it indicates a higher level of conscientiousness so that too is another compliment.

ah, I just wanna say you're not alone like that, I'll join your company lol.
What's ur zodiac sign? don't say Pisces! lol I believe a lot in astrology and base so many facts through it. I think you just love mystery and see things the way they're formated in your head, rather than reality.

That sounds exactly like me. I never understood why that was my reaction until recently.

I have a lot of trust issues, so when I hear that someone's interested in me, I get kind of defensive. It's like I expect them to have bad intentions or something. Maybe it's become a fear of commitment? I'm not really sure, but I haven't figured out how to get over it yet.

I'm sure that wasn't very helpful :\