Okay, there’s this guy and I really like him and he really likes/liked me too. Anyway, we were texting for like a couple of weeks and stuff and it was going really well; he kept telling me how much he liked me and he was saying he wanted us to have a serious relationship and stuff. Then he invited me to his party and we ended up having sex apparently it was his first time too, though I’m not sure. He text me the next day to reassure me that he does really like me and it he didn’t just want sex from me but then we didn’t really talk until a couple of days and after that we arranged to meet up. He came round to my house and it seemed to go okay he was there for five hours and we did actually talk. Then he stopped replying to my texts I mean I wasn’t bombarding him with them just like one a day or something. Then after like 5 days or so I text to ask if he was trying to give me the brush off and if he was could he be honest. His reply was; 'I'm not avoiding you I just feel we have moved to fast and I’m just a bit confused that’s all. don’t worry xx :)' Which just made me worry more. What is there to be confused about really? You either like someone or you don’t. It’s not like I’m asking him to marry me, I’m not even demanding a relationship or anything so I don’t understand. It's just made me feel confused and sad as basically what he's saying is he isn’t sure if he's as in to me as he thought. I know he can't help it but it just upsets me because he led me to believe it was going somewhere and if I had known it wasn’t I would never have had my first time with him. I don't know what I should do next. I've told him I’ll back off but really I wasn’t backing on. I don't think I’ve been too clingy or anything, if anything I’ve been distant because I didn’t want him to think I was clingy. He was the one telling me that he cares about me a lot and it meant something to him, he even told me he loved me. I wasn't stupid enough to believe that though and I told him he didn't and that there was no need to lie lol. It's just so confusing and frustrating. I mean I know really I should never have slept with him but it felt right at the time I did honestly think the feeling was mutual. Seriously, why are guys so difficult?!
Why are you so easy? Yeah, know that's mean, but you acted and gave up your virginity on impulse! I would expect him, and hopefully you, to be skeptical about where to take this next. He said he was confused. If he is reasonable, I'm not surprised. You see, he'd not confused about whether he likes you - he never said that. He just seems to not want to take things too fast and risk his and your "first times" becoming scarring memories.
You need to be patient. Give him the time he needs to figure this out, and don't come across as so urgent to get things on the move between you guys, because then you look desperate. Communicate, give time a chance and listen to how he feels while asking yourself what you really want and what would be best for both of you.
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