Whenever I think of being in a relationship, or intimate with a guy, I just spontaneously start crying (either because I'm scared beyond reasoning, and/or I don't like myself.). Now, I know I've been depressed for many years, and I've tried meds and therapy, but I don't think any of it actually worked (I was severely bullied as a kid, and nothing else happened). I have tried to think happy thoughts, and I've tried to date, but it only made the depression worse. I guess I do want to be in a relationship, but when I actually come face to face with a guy, I see everything about him that I just don't like and I feel that I'm better off alone. But at the same time I don't want to be alone. Is there any hope of me being fixed, or do you guys think I should just give up? Because I'm actually to the point where I get myself physically ill. That, and how do I stop being a prude and not being so judgmental of guys? because I really don't want to be that old lady with the house full of cats.
I'm no expert, but I have a theory about meds, therapy and why they don't work. The theory on meds is that for some people certain meds do nothing. If you get on those it's like not having any meds at all which is worse than one that does half the job. If you do get a med that works well, it can make you feel well enough to not go to therapy or to feel the need to make changes in your life. Things don't really get fixed. Also, some therapists tend to tell you the good things - things you want to hear. It's part of getting you out of the circle of depression and it has value. But there is a point where you need to hear some real constructive comments and hard facts. Then they need to follow up issues you mentioned previously. Some never get around to that if you have a new issue. Again, I'm no expert and those are just my theories.
I think you should put relationships on the back burner for now. Just try to get yourself in a better place. It doesn't mean you're giving up on them forever, just for now. I could be wrong, but I'd say you should give the professionals another shot. Therapy and drugs don't always work quickly, but I think they're worth waiting on. They've helped an awful lot of people.
I just want to know why do girls rate other chicks low? I seem to be getting average or halfway with guys and other people rating but the girls lol...
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What is your favorite outfit for a night out with friends?
Probably black skinny with a black,red,or grey tank top with a studded belt under it all matched with clor cordinating chucks or vansIf not skinny jeans I would probably wear baggy black Dickies or jeans to show off black lace or boy cut undies matched with a white or black tank that covers only a little past my belly button
How do you style your hair and do your make-up?
Mostly I just straighten my hair it seriously is nnaturally straight except the ends sometimes flip out if I don't blow dry themso anyways ill straighten my hair for make upalways black liquid eye liner on the bottom of lids I range of grey purple black or light peachish eye shadow.i apply base gloss and blush as well
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