Lesbian wanna be straight..help?

just do what feels comfy don't push too hard relax take it in deep then release what you feel building and if it begins to flow then let it.

Ok go out have fun date some guys there are guys who find a tomboy sexy. your a little more tomboy than usual but since you know cars guitars and manstuff it sounds like you won't have any problem with finding common ground. just remember love is blind there is no gay straight with love there are people and that's all there is to it.

I have been dealing with the same issues for a long time as well about being gay and bisexual, etc. and have been with a lot of people of the same sex. Once you get started and begin thinking a certain way, it's really tough to quit. I think that how you perceive yourself is going to determine how you act and feel. If you see yourself as a lesbian and entertain thoughts about women, you are going to end up acting out what you are thinking about. However, if you begin to entertain thoughts about being a woman and finding a guy that you can fall in love with, I think you are going to start acting the part. Also, if you start seeing yourself as being a woman and dressing sexy, you are going to start doing those things. I used to cross dress as well, and it wasn't until I started picturing myself dressing differently and seeing myself as being sexy in the clothes that I wanted to dress in that I actually started to feel differently about myself and have hope that I actually could change! Not to get religious on you, but I am a Christian, and a scripture that has helped me regarding what I am talking about is,"As a man believes in his heart, so is he." I have taken that to mean that whatever I believe about myself is the way I will be. It's what we think on or meditate on that determines how we will be. A famous speaker and author, Joyce Meyer, has said, "Wherever the mind goes, the man follows." In other words, whatever we focus our minds on is where we will end up and how we will behave. I would encourage you to think about how you would like to act and how you would like to feel and how you would like to see yourself and dress and keep your mind focused on those things, and you will begin to see results. Don't give up! It's not easy at first to train your mind to think differently than how it has been thinking for a long time, but it's not impossible! I believe that you have taken the first steps and that you are going to conquer this thing if you really want to! Good luck! :)

I'm sorry to say but, you can't really learn how to be straight. You either are, or you aren't. If you're bi, then you're both, but it sounds like you're lesbian, right? You can't change who you like, at least not to my knowledge. You shouldn't force yourself to like men if you don't already like them.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

First of all liking to do "guy stuff" doesn't make you a lesbian. Being a girl and liking girls sexually makes you a lesbian. And bottom line you shouldn't try to make yourself like someone or something you don't naturally like just to be "normal." If you are sexually attracted to guys then you naturally are a bisexual. If you want help with make-up and stuff because you are interested in it and would like to use it more, go to a big name department store and ask for a lesson. Most of them charge something for the sitting but they teach you a lot.

Wear the clothes that you want, be with who you want to be, wear make up when you want to and don't wear it when you don't. Sexuality to me if fluid. There is no "acting straight". I know girls who aren't lesbians but they don't wear make up and they know all about cars and guitars (and whatnot).

Ok well first off I think if you are really a lesbian then it's probably not something that you can really change. You can ACT straight, but that won't actually make you straight. At least as far as my understanding of homosexuality goes. And I can tell you that it doesn't matter what I do, I'm not going to suddenly want to kiss or have sex with a female as a straight girl. I mean I was ALWAYS a tomboy and for a couple years I cross dressed and had a whole "male" persona and everything. But I can honestly say that I have never been physically attracted to a girl.

Now as for learning about eyeliner and being "girlie" (I have known quite a few lesbians who were plenty "girlie".) I would say one place to start is with women's magazines. Glamour and Cosmopolitan are popular ones here in the US. They have tons of examples of "fashion" to imitate if you are looking to dress more feminine. And they almost always have one or two makeup tips. As for the actual application. that just takes practice. Most of us start it at a younger age, but my advice is to get some cheap eyeliners (and other forms of makeup but eyeliner is the trickiest) from like Walmart. Get some dollar stuff (unless you have money to burn but for practice, what's the point?) and practice at times when it doesn't really matter. Like if you are not going to be leaving the house. If you work, wait until the evening to put it on. Just do it at times when nobody is really going to see you. That way if it looks bad it doesn't matter. Of course once you get it down, you can buy better brands and start wearing it out. I also suggest starting with things that are less bold. Tinted lip gloss before lipstick which comes before lip liner & lipstick together. Find a light & flattering shade of eyeshadow that you can use alone. Nothing too bold. Then work your way up to multiple and/or bolder colors. You may also want to flip through some of the teen mags. Seventeen, Teen, YM. They are geared more towards high school aged girls but they tend to have a lot more makeup tips in them. Just flip through before you buy and see if this month's issue has lots of tips or not. Every so often they will do some sort of special article that has a BUNCH of beauty tips, so definitely look for those.

Keep in mind, there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian. There is also nothing wrong with being a tomboy. Plenty of straight girls are. I'm sorta middle of the road but more towards the tomboy than the girlie girl. I only have my rare girlie girl moments. There is also nothing wrong with being a girlie girl. Just make sure what it is you're really wanting to achieve and that it's really what you WANT. And being a girlie girl is not going to make you NOT a lesbian if that's what you truly are, just like being a tomboy isn't going to make me gay. Not the way it works, sorry. Good luck!