I have been entangled with this one guy for a while now. It was obvious that we both liked each other, but we were not dating yet because we are separated by distance for the summer and it would have been awkward to try to start a relationship from afar. In spite of this decision, we talked pretty much every day either online or over the phone.
So, a few days ago, he leaves me a bunch of messages over IM declaring his love. Seemed like a good thing to me, although he was drunk when he did it. He seemed sincere, and said that it was hard for him to do that sort of thing sober because of shyness.
I also talked to him on the phone shortly afterward and he was very, very drunk, but still seemed pretty into me. It was awkward and a little odd, but I was willing to accept it for the time being.
Through the course of the conversation, I learned that part of what prompted this was that his ex had told him she still loved him earlier that night. while they were drinking together at his house. I had warned him several times about her trying to get back together with him the first chance she got. (She tends to be very clingy, this was a large part of why they broke up a while back.)
I really want to trust him, but I thought it was odd that he and his ex were at his house in the middle of the night. drunk. There were other people there, but I don't really know what the specific circumstances were.
He barely contacted me the day after and neglected to return a text I sent him. Ever since he has barely spoken to me online even though I have been on a lot and I know he has been too. There are plenty of ways to contact me online (Facebook, IM) as well as via phone (both calls and text).
So. What's with the radio silence if everything should be fine? When he talked to me before, I was completely positive and encouraging, I reciprocated the feelings. I'm really confused now, he barely talks to me and I don't know what I should do.
I'm really tempted to confront him, but I don't want to hurt him. Yet, if something weird is going on, I don't want to be naive about it.
Update: Well, I asked him about what was going on a day or so after posting this and he told me that he didn't blame me for being paranoid about the situation, but that he had been telling her that they were through. So things seemed good.
A month ago
Update: A week later, his roommate told me that my guy had been sleeping with the ex during that time. Same week he tells me he loves me, he is sleeping with his ex. Plus there is some other girl hanging around all the time that he is into. I guess that's that.
A month ago
Update: I confirmed what his roommate said with him, it's all true. Supposedly he had been wanting to confess to me in person, but I don't believe it.
A month ago
well I would say ,just drop him,some ignorats not worth the time and effort you spend,u see all these self-explanatory signs but still wanna get hurt,and then only you would know he is a jerk,right?but why not believing he is a jerk now?
I went through something like that, where the guy told me he loved me when he was drunk guys fined it easier that way I guess if there shy or scared or whatever. So chances are he met what he said, If he won't talk to you now that he said that. then forget him, I ended up telling my guy about what he said and we still talk. Maybe he got back together with his ex? Don't know but if he still ignores you then drop him.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Honestly, it doesn't matter as long as the guy planned something and put effort into it. Of course I wouldn't mind having dinner down in the city wearing a little black dress and then going for a walk on a really nice night. I'm not a high maintenance kind of woman and the most simple and real things make me happy!
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
Probably a lot. I believe in complete openness and honesty right away. He'd probably know that I like cars too much and I am confident in what I've accomplished this far... and I'm not telling any more ;)
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